18d • General discussion
The dog bite isn’t even the hard part…
I got bit by a dog this week.
Worth saying upfront, it was my fault. I knew better, did the thing anyway, and a dog who was just doing their thing reminded me of the rules. No drama. Just a fair consequence and a bandage situation I brought entirely on myself.
Here’s the part I actually want to talk about. That bite is maybe the smallest thing that went sideways this week, and it’s still the thing that cracked something open, because it landed on top of a week that was already too much. Childcare I didn’t plan for. Plans that fell through right when I needed them to hold. The specific flavor of life just life-ing while you’re already running on fumes, where nothing is technically a crisis and yet everything still feels like one.
I didn’t sign up for any of this, the dog bite or the extra hours or the week where I can’t do the things that would’ve actually felt good. I’m frustrated, and I’m not going to dress that up for you.
This is usually where I’d pivot to the silver lining, the lesson, the gratitude reframe. I’m not doing that today, because that’s not what this place is for. We don’t do toxic positivity here. The hard part doesn’t get smaller just because I found something nice to set next to it.
So instead, both/and. It’s been a genuinely rough week, and I’m still here. I’m frustrated, and I haven’t gone anywhere. Both of those are true at the same time, and neither one cancels the other out.
It stings a little to take my own medicine, if I’m honest. I write this stuff for you on the easier weeks. Living it on a week like this one is a different exercise entirely.
And today is Father’s Day, which I know lands complicated for some of us, whether that’s a dad who isn’t in the picture the way you wished he’d be, or a day where you’re quietly doing both jobs and nobody’s saying thank you for either one. I’m not going to tell you to make peace with that by tonight. I’m just going to say I’m right here with you, on a hard week, on a complicated day, bandaged hand and all.
What’s your “didn’t sign up for this” this week? Tell me in the comments. I’ll be here, hand still healing, completely unqualified to give anyone advice on dog safety.
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