School’s back in session. Or maybe homeschool restarted. Or you’re three weeks into a new IEP meeting cycle and already tired of the acronym soup. However this season looks for your family, here’s what I know. The kid who melted down on day two isn’t broken, and neither are you. September is the month everyone else posts backpack photos and first day smiles, while some of us are white knuckling through transition meltdowns, sensory overload, or a kid who held it together at school and is now falling apart the second they walk in your door. That falling apart at home thing, by the way, is a compliment. It means you’re the safe place. It doesn’t feel like a compliment at 6pm when the backpack goes flying, but it is one. You don’t have to have this figured out by Labor Day. You get to still be figuring it out in October, November, and honestly, all year. That’s not failure. That’s just what this looks like. Tell me your best IRL back to school moment so far, the real one, not the “first day, isn’t this great?”backpack photo version. I’ll go first in the comments.

The last couple of months have been...a lot, ya know? There has been a broken hand, work deadlines, family health issues, middle-of-the-night phone calls, parenting adult kids through hard choices, trying to be present for my granddaughter, and all the ordinary chaos that somehow still has to happen in between. If you've ever looked around and wondered how one person can possibly wear this many hats, *we're probably speaking the same language.* If you've been here for a while, you already know that my life isn't built around neat little routines. Some weeks I'm writing about boundaries and resilience. Other weeks I'm answering a phone call in the middle of the night, trying to help put out fires I never saw coming. I realized something while I was away. I kept waiting for life to calm down before showing up again. I kept thinking, "Once this settles down, I'll get back to writing." But I don't think that's how this works. For so many of us, there isn't a magical season where everything is finally stable and we suddenly have endless time, energy, and emotional bandwidth. There is just today, and whatever today happens to bring. This community has never been about having it all figured out. It's about the messy middle—the place where we're doing our best, loving our kids fiercely, celebrating tiny victories, grieving the hard days, and trying not to lose ourselves in the process. That's where I am. And maybe that's where you are, too. So let's pick up where we left off. No guilt. No apologies. No pretending everything is fine. I'd love to hear from you. What's one thing you're carrying right now? It could be a win you're celebrating, something that's keeping you up at night, or simply the thing that feels the heaviest this week. Drop it in the comments. 👇 This is still a place where you don't have to explain yourself first. 💜

I got bit by a dog this week. Worth saying upfront, it was my fault. I knew better, did the thing anyway, and a dog who was just doing their thing reminded me of the rules. No drama. Just a fair consequence and a bandage situation I brought entirely on myself. Here’s the part I actually want to talk about. That bite is maybe the smallest thing that went sideways this week, and it’s still the thing that cracked something open, because it landed on top of a week that was already too much. Childcare I didn’t plan for. Plans that fell through right when I needed them to hold. The specific flavor of life just life-ing while you’re already running on fumes, where nothing is technically a crisis and yet everything still feels like one. I didn’t sign up for any of this, the dog bite or the extra hours or the week where I can’t do the things that would’ve actually felt good. I’m frustrated, and I’m not going to dress that up for you. This is usually where I’d pivot to the silver lining, the lesson, the gratitude reframe. I’m not doing that today, because that’s not what this place is for. We don’t do toxic positivity here. The hard part doesn’t get smaller just because I found something nice to set next to it. So instead, both/and. It’s been a genuinely rough week, and I’m still here. I’m frustrated, and I haven’t gone anywhere. Both of those are true at the same time, and neither one cancels the other out. It stings a little to take my own medicine, if I’m honest. I write this stuff for you on the easier weeks. Living it on a week like this one is a different exercise entirely. And today is Father’s Day, which I know lands complicated for some of us, whether that’s a dad who isn’t in the picture the way you wished he’d be, or a day where you’re quietly doing both jobs and nobody’s saying thank you for either one. I’m not going to tell you to make peace with that by tonight. I’m just going to say I’m right here with you, on a hard week, on a complicated day, bandaged hand and all.

Four DBT-informed tools for when you are about four minutes from losing it completely. No baths. No journaling. Just fast, real stuff that actually works when your nervous system is on fire. Go grab it. It's yours, and you probably needed it yesterday. And while you're here — what's your current go-to when everything goes sideways? The thing you *actually* do, not the thing you tell your therapist you do. Drop it below. I'd love to hear it.

Something new just landed in the classroom, and I want to tell you why I made it. I've been thinking a lot lately about how most affirmations just don't fit our lives. They're beautiful and well-meaning and written for someone whose hardest day looks pretty different from ours. "Good vibes only"? Absolutely lovely. It is also not what I need at 11pm after a school call, a meltdown, and coffee I reheated twice and forgot about - both times. So I wrote some that do fit. 30 affirmation cards built for parents who are in the thick of it, covering everything from why your body deserves rest to why other people's opinions about your parenting are noise, not data. Honest ones. True ones. The kind nobody says out loud but everybody needs to hear. You can find them in the classroom. Download, screenshot, print, do whatever works for you. What hits home for you? And, if you're brave today: what would you add to this deck?