When you are working with your nervous system, keep in mind you are working on 5 Intelligences. They are: 1. Somatic- involves body based tools 2. Emotional- navigating powerful emotions 3. Relational with Yourself- tapping into wise part of yourself 4. Relational with Others- co-regulation without enmeshment 5. Reflective- acquiring mental equanimity  I am attaching an activity to try that helps with #2. Lmk how it goes! https://docs.google.com/document/d/1vQ5NIzNxtrjFTVKQHfXLcLcD6I-_9S9fTiMddfZe9Pw/edit?usp=sharing

Hello Priscila. I really liked your most recent e-mail, especially learning a little more about your story. I LOVED hearing about your new boyfriend! YAY YOU!!! I'll have what she's having, Universe! :) One thing I'd like to ask about is this idea you shared: At some point, you have to stop asking, "Why did this happen to me?" and begin asking, "Given everything I've learned...what do I want to create now?" The way I feel in this moment is depleted, defeated, sad AF, weak broken hearted- this divorce has re-ignited my core wound from childhood- so it's not just the end of a 29 yr relationship (which would be enough to floor me)~ but it's this existential realization that my father couldn't love me, and now, the love of my life, my husband, father of my children also could not love me in the way I need to be loved and valued. As much as I'd love to CREATE a new life- I just don't have the energy, or an optimistic outlook. I'm not sleeping, and my nervous system is on overdrive. What I need most is to know how to navigate this stage- how to get through it!

Welcome again. Here is the main framework of everything we do in this community. Let's see if it resonates in The Divorce Rebuild Solution™. Meet → Meditate → Maintain Meet - Meet your fear. - Meet your needs. - Meet your story. - Meet your resources. Meditate - Regulate your nervous system. - Slow your reactions. - Listen instead of forcing answers. Maintain - Choose one aligned action. - Build self-trust through consistency. - Repeat until your new identity becomes natural.