25d • General discussion
Interesting vs Likeable
I recently spent a week working as a summer camp supervisor and during this time I got to know and interact with some of the other supervisors. My experience with them taught me a lesson that I’d like to share here.
There was one supervisor (we’ll call her Anna) who was one of the most interesting people I’ve ever met: To list a few things, she sold a startup when she was a teenager, spoke a bunch of languages, studied physics and political science while simultaneously working in private equity in London, traveled around the world, you get it. The type of person you instantly want to learn more about.
And there was another supervisor (we’ll call him James) who was a bit more—for the lack of a better word— “ordinary” than Anna. He was in university studying medicine and other than that he just seemed like a regular guy.
What struck me was how I felt around each of them. When I spoke with Anna, she would often talk about super interesting things, but never seemed quite interested me. When I spoke with James, on the other hand, he made me feel like a very interesting person and seemed genuinely curious to learn about me.
Don’t get me wrong—Anna was a lovely person. But when the week was over, the person I most wanted to remain friends with was James and not Anna. The way he made me feel was significantly more important than how “interesting” he was.
The moral of the story:
* Try to find the people in your life that make you feel like an interesting person. That is a key attribute for a real friendship.
* Don’t worry too much about appearing “interesting”. Worry about appearing INTERESTED.
Let me know what you guys think!
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