Keep sending us your questions! We love to hear them and walk through them as a community (someone else probably has the same question) "Every time I try to bring something up with my boyfriend I feel like it turns into a fight. What am I doing wrong?" Such a good question!!!! And also one with a fix (the best kind of problems to have)! Here's the hard truth: releasing how you feel is not the same as communicating it. Real communication only works when it can be received. And before you say a single word, two things need to be true — 1. Place. Is your partner actually in a space right now — mentally, physically — to hear what you need to say? (If they just walked in from work, are in the middle of something it's not a good time) 2. Intention. Are you bringing this because you want to grow together — or because you need to get it out? If it's the second one, write it down first. If you throw emotions at your parter the focus in on your tone and not what needs to change. If the goal is change and for this to improve. Bring things at the right time and in the right state of mind. Don't just explode emotions.

How do you create a space where your relationship is safe to explore emotions? COMMENT YOUR QUESTION AND WE WILL HOPEFULLY GET TO IT THIS WEEK One of our amazing community members brought up a great point today! Their goal 💥 "To be able to express ourselves more. Our love, frustrations, our happy, and our sad with each other." The current situation 👥 One partner doesn't share much with the other... so.. the other has also started to pull back and not share because they don't feel it is ever received. Here is what to do 💪 When one partner stops sharing and the other gives up trying it's because there's no agreed-upon structure for how and when sharing happens. Right now, communication only happens when someone feels brave enough to start it — and that's a setup for both of you to give up, at least right now when you are building. One of our core principles is that - strong relationships aren't simply built on feelings, they're built on systems. Waiting until you both feel like opening up means it almost never happens because you don’t any system to make it feel safe and successful. This week try this out 😊 Tell your partner. A lot of times we think our partners can tell how we are feeling and in reality, they can’t. Find a time when your partner is available and say “I have been feeling disconnected from you. I feel we haven’t shared any of our wins, frustrations, or love lately.” Communicate how you are feeling and why it is important to you. “I miss you and want to feel our connection again”. Bring a solution. Pick a day and a time (at least an hour) for you to spend intentional time together. You need to enjoy each other to want to improve your relationship together. So come back together. Pick something you both enjoy doing and have a shared experience together. Connect again. 🫶

If you’re here, it probably means one thing: You care about your relationship… but you also know that caring isn’t always enough. Most relationships don’t fail because people don’t love each other. They fail because people don’t know: • how to communicate in a way that’s actually received • how to take ownership without defensiveness • how to have conversations that lead to growth instead of conflict That’s what this community is for. Not perfect relationships. Better ones.

Something simple for today: Don’t underestimate how much respect and acknowledgment matter in a relationship. Not big gestures. Just small things like: • saying “I appreciate that” • noticing something they did • not taking the little efforts for granted Most people don’t feel hurt because of something big… They feel hurt because they feel unseen.