I haven't posted for sometime. Life happens and before you know it a day turns to a week and to a month before you know it. Consistency is not easy but I will try to keep you engaged. Help me welcome all the new members who are joining us. Thanks for keeping it here. I have something cooking and I will let you know before long Thanks friends

I created Bridge Builders for every woman who feels she is not where she ought to be—whether in her career, finances, relationships, personal growth, faith, or any other area of life. I do not claim to have all the answers. What I do believe is that, together, we can encourage one another, learn from one another, and help each other move forward. Earlier this year, I finished writing my memoir, which I recently published on Amazon. During that process, I realized something important: many of us have handed over our decision-making power to other people for far too long. We wait for approval. We wait until we feel ready. We wait for someone to confirm that our idea is good enough. We wait for permission to begin. I realized that for me to move from where I was to where I wanted to be, I had to take my authority back. But there was another obstacle: a voice inside my mind that was constantly trying to keep me “safe.” Although it believed it was protecting me, it was also keeping me stuck. I call that voice the Warden. The Warden uses eight main scripts to create fear, doubt, delay, perfectionism, and the need for approval. Before I could move forward, I had to learn how to recognize the Warden’s voice and stop allowing it to control my decisions. That discovery led me to create a 90-Day Protocol that helped me begin taking action. Writing my book without asking anybody for permission was a win. Publishing it was a win. Starting this community without waiting until I felt completely ready is another win. As we walk this journey together, we will learn how to: Identify the voice of the Warden Recognize the scripts that have been holding us back Challenge and silence those scripts Take back our authority Begin the projects, businesses, ministries, books, and dreams we have been postponing Move forward without waiting for the “perfect” moment or permission from someone else The truth is, the permission has always been yours. Give yourself permission to start. Thank you for being here. I am glad we are beginning this journey together.

Before the Warden can tell you you're not ready, or that it's too late, she has to convince you of something more basic: that there's nothing to address at all. "It's not that bad" is the lock before the lock. Here's the image that finally made me understand it. Step into a lukewarm bath and you feel it instantly — this is not warm enough. But step into a hot bath and stay while it slowly cools, and you adjust so gradually that by the time the water is lukewarm, you've stopped noticing the temperature. That's not peace. That's adaptation. Psychologists call it hedonic adaptation: the brain adjusts to stable conditions, pleasant or unpleasant, and returns to baseline. Useful for surviving hardship. A problem when it stops you noticing that a situation you adapted to is one you were only ever meant to pass through. "Fine" is what adapted feels like. Fine and fulfilled are not the same thing. Question for the comments: where in your life has the bath been cooling so slowly you stopped noticing? One sentence. Naming it is the whole assignment.