You’re not broken — you’re getting feedback. Here’s how I turn stress from “in the way” into “on the way.” 1) Regulate first (60–90s) • 3 x physiological sighs: big inhale → small top-up → long slow exhale. • 5–4–3–2–1 grounding: 5 things you see, 4 feel, 3 hear, 2 smell, 1 taste. • Shoulders down, jaw unclench, soften your gaze. 2) Find the upside (balance perception) • What exactly happened? (when/where/who) • How is this challenge ALSO serving me today? List 3 specific benefits. • Link it to values: Work, Family, Gym, Friends, Home — how does it help one? 3) Drop unrealistic expectations • Where am I expecting a one-sided reality (only “good”, no “bad”)? • Where am I expecting someone (or me) to live outside their values? 4) Turn anxiety into a plan (fear-setting) • Worst case I’m imagining? • If it happened: how could it benefit me / what would I do to prevent/prepare/repair? • Who/what is a resource I can use in 2 minutes? 5) Go one layer deeper (root cause) • Run the “5 Whys”: “I’m stressed because… why? …and why?” until you hit the real constraint. • Brain-dump: get it out of your head and onto paper/notes. 6) Choose one 5–10 minute action • Pick ONE small action that serves your top value today (send the message, 10-min walk, prep a meal, 5-min tidy, book the call). Start a timer. What you get: • Shoulders drop, mind clears, action happens. You’ll feel present, certain, and back in charge. • Repeat this any time the loop starts: Regulate → Reframe → Act. Comment “RESET” and share: 1) The situation (1 line) 2) One benefit you found 3) Your 10-minute action I’ll reply with a tailored prompt + checklist to keep you moving.

Well I asked GPT and I love this answer: What does being confident mean to you?

Let’s get real for a second: Overthinking isn’t about “thinking too much.” It’s about thinking in an unbalanced way. You get stuck in the amygdala loop — 👉 Playing out worst-case scenarios (all drawbacks). 👉 Or fantasising about best-case daydreams (all benefits). Either way, your mind keeps spinning because it hasn’t balanced the perception. 💡 The truth? When you see both sides equally — benefits and drawbacks — the charge dissolves, your mind calms, and presence replaces the noise. So here’s a simple Overthinking Dissolver Process you can use anytime your head’s running circles: 🔹 Step 1 – Spot It Ask yourself: “What exactly am I overthinking right now?” “Am I stuck in a fear… or a fantasy?” 🔹 Step 2 – Balance It If it feels all negative: “What are the hidden benefits here?” “How could this actually serve me?” If it feels all positive: “What are the drawbacks and responsibilities I’m not seeing?” “Could this distract me from what matters most?” 🔹 Step 3 – Link It to Your Values “How does this situation serve my highest priorities in life?” “How is it guiding me closer to my mission?” 🔹 Step 4 – Anchor in Presence “What’s the highest priority action I can take right now?” “If I were fully present and certain, what would I do in this moment?” ⚡ Try it: next time you catch yourself spiraling, run through these 4 steps. It takes 2–3 minutes and will bring you back into certainty, clarity, and presence. 👉 Drop a comment below: What’s one area of your life right now where overthinking is stealing your energy — and how could this process help you take it back?

Your brain is wired to scan for threats: Who’s watching me? Am I good enough? The gym triggers all three alarms. Fear isn’t proof you’re weak — it’s feedback. Intimidation happens when you put others on a pedestal and yourself in the pit. Level the field → you rise. Use this before you walk in: Name it: Who exactly are you admiring? What trait? Own it: Where/when have you shown that trait (in your way, in your values)? Stack examples. Balance it: List the “worst case” drawbacks of going… then 3–5 benefits of each “bad” outcome. Fear loses its grip. 💬 Comment READY if you’ll run this 3-step before your next session — I’ll check in with you this week.

Here’s the exact 3-step shift I want to walk my clients through to dissolve the weight in minutes (not months): 1️⃣ Name the stressor — be specific. 2️⃣ Ask: How might this be serving me? What’s the hidden benefit? 3️⃣ Ask: What would be the drawbacks if this stress disappeared? When you balance your perception, the emotional charge dissolves. You don’t just cope — you get clarity, calm, and control back. This isn’t positive thinking. It’s truth-seeing. When you shift perception, your shoulders drop, your breathing deepens, and you feel alive again. ⚡ Try it today. Comment below: “I’m ready to shift” if you want me to personally guide you through it.