There's a word for what you're going through.
Matrescence , is the psychological, physical, and spiritual transformation of becoming a mother.
Just like adolescence, it can feel like:
โ You don't recognize yourself in the mirror
โ Your relationships feel different
โ Your values and priorities are shifting
โ You feel joy and grief simultaneously
โ You wonder who you are now
This is not postpartum depression.
This is not ingratitude.
This is a developmental stage that science has barely begun to study , and society almost entirely ignores.
You are not losing yourself , you are outgrowing a version of yourself that could no longer hold who you're becoming.
That's terrifying and beautiful at the same time.
Did you feel like you disappeared after becoming a mom? I want to hear your story.
Mafalda Oliveira
( Anami Roots )