- 1. Being chronically shy or silent in group settings. The Invisible Root: "If I am not seen, I cannot be criticized, judged, or rejected." - 12. Waiting for the "perfect moment," "perfect mood," or "perfect alignment" to take action. The Invisible Root: "I am not responsible for my inaction; the external conditions just aren't right yet." - 19. Checking your bank account with a sense of stomach-turning dread, even when you know you have money.The Invisible Root: "Financial security is a complete illusion; the other shoe is always about to drop."