@Barry Schutte this is a great start to our work - to identify the characters/identities that we don't like. From here, we have the opportunity to see that these characters/identities are always a part of us and therefore don't need to be destroyed/never be seen again. That would be us rejecting parts of ourselves (into our shadow), and lowering our self worth even further. When we give acceptance, acknowledgement and gratitude for all that the character and identity has done subconsciously for us all these years, we bring our parts together and also give ourselves the message that these characters/identities don't need to run the show anymore, so we can retire them and let our true selves (driven by what we actually want) take charge. For example, The Overthinker The People Pleaser are 2 of my recurring characters/identities in my cast. By this, I mean that overthinking and people pleasing were automatic behaviours for me; by working with these characters, I've found alternative ways to meet the same needs they were meeting, thus letting my true self operate. This doesn't mean I never overthink or people please again, that's happened and will continue to happen - and that's ok. Instead of just letting the characters and identities continue unabated, we've given ourselves an alternative by forging our new identity through our true self