Guarding the Heart Without Hardening It
Weâre often told to guard our heartsâand for good reason. Our hearts carry our beliefs, emotions, hopes, and wounds. But somewhere along the way, guarding can quietly turn into building walls. Thereâs a difference between protection and isolation. A guarded heart is discerning. A hardened heart is closed. Guarding your heart doesnât mean: shutting people out completely becoming cynical or distrustful refusing vulnerability numbing yourself to avoid pain It does mean: setting healthy boundaries being wise about who has access to your inner world pausing before reacting emotionally allowing God to heal what hurt, instead of letting it scar over Hardness often comes from unprocessed pain. When we donât take wounds to God, we armor up instead. The armor might feel safe, but over time it keeps out joy, connection, and growth along with the hurt. Soft hearts are not weak hearts. They are strong, surrendered, and resilient. A guarded heart stays tender by: checking motives instead of assuming intentions choosing forgiveness without denying boundaries remaining teachable, even after disappointment allowing love again, slowly and wisely Guarding your heart is about stewardship, not fear. Itâs choosing to protect what matters while still leaving room for grace, truth, and connection. In what ways have I guarded my heart well? Where might I be hardening instead of healing? What would it look like to stay soft and wise? You donât have to choose between being protected and being open. With intention and faith, you can do both.