Alison Armstrong Gets it.
This is what happens when your behaviour has a negative effect on your man but because you are allergic to being accountable for your behaviour that negative effect is "all his fault" and you are the innocent victim of HIS behaviour. Women's inability to take accountability for their negative behaviour in relationships is quite simply the primary cause of relationships failing. Because a woman who refuses to be accountable for her negative behaviour will never take accountability for not being accountable because being unaccountable is in itself a negative behaviour! So you have a classic vicious circle where the negative behaviour never stops and only gets worse over time. And because the primal coping mechanism for behaviours emotions and feelings that we refuse to own and be responsible for is Projection, this means that the woman will not be able to stop herself from projecting all the negative behaviour she refuses to own in herself onto her man as blame and judgment and condemnation of the bad behaviour she sees in him, but is actually hers. This is why unaccountable women leave their failed relationships believing "everything was HIS fault" Of course accountable women do exist, but after 50 years of Feminism/Female Supremacy they make up less than 10% of women in the West. And this is why most married men are reduced to a shell of themselves by the women they love and the relationship experiences a long slow painful death during which he suffers the soul crushing agony of a dead bedroom. Until his wife finally decides it's time to kick him out of his own house, divorce rape him and estrange him from his children because HE'S been a terrible selfish husband to her perfectly innocent and long suffering wife. The solution to this ubiquitous problem is simple and obvious. Any man that does not wish to be reduced to a shell of himself and destroyed in divorce by his woman must simply end the relationship the moment he realises that he is in a relationship with a typical woman i.e. one of the 90% of women who simply refuses to be accountable for her negative behaviour.