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16 contributions to Whole by Design Community
From Survival Mode To Softness: How To Support Yourself This Week
How to support yourself so you don't lose your sanity: I know what it feels like to be the solo mom carrying it all. On the outside, functioning. Delivering. Smiling. On the inside, drained, overwhelmed, anxious and full of self-doubt. Because when the day ends, there is no one to hand over to. It is still you. The meals, the child, the bills, the emotions, the decisions — all you. You are not lazy. You are not uncommitted. Your body is stuck in survival mode. And my love, you cannot pour from an empty cup and then blame yourself for being empty. Here is how we start supporting YOU: 1. Give yourself flexibility, not guilt Don't just say "I should cope." Ask yourself: "What would make this week doable for me?" A 30 min shift, asking for help, saying no to one thing — that can be the difference between a breakdown and a breakthrough. 2. Predictability is safety When everything feels last-minute and chaotic, your nervous system stays on edge. Clear plan for tomorrow, clear expectations for yourself, no guessing games. That is not being rigid. That is you creating safety for you. 3. Output over hours You don't have to do it all to be a good mom. Judge your day on what mattered, not how long you were busy. 1 hour of calm, present time with your child beats 8 hours of panicked, burnt-out doing. 4. Don't beg for support — claim it You are already carrying everything. You don't have to earn rest. You don't have to be broken to deserve help. Ask. In here, in your life, on your audit call. You can be strong and still need support. 5. Check in with yourself like a sister, not a boss Not "did I get everything done?" Try: "How am I holding up this week, love?" That one question changed everything for me. My love, you are not losing your sanity because you are weak. You are losing it because you have been strong for too long without support. You deserve to feel Safe in Body. Stable in Home. Powerful in Purpose. Which one of these 5 do you need most this week? Tell me in the comments — I got you.
From Survival Mode To Softness: How To Support Yourself This Week
1 like • 17h
@Bridgette Hlaola I am definitely giving myself flexibility and output over hours these days. I do and attend to whatever and whenever I can and if I can't I no longer feel guilty about it. I am the priority now. I think as the year draws to an end we are all feeling tired, so I am currently refilling my own cup, I can't pour from an empty cup🤍
Happy New Week, beautiful souls 🤍
A new week, a new chance to come back to yourself. This week, we are not chasing. We are not forcing. We are choosing peace over pressure. Your gentle CEO focus for this week: RELEASE — What is one thing you are ready to release? A worry, a habit, an old story? RESET — What is one small way you will reset your energy each morning? 5 minutes of breath, journaling, a walk? RISE — What is one aligned action you will take to move forward, even if it is small? You do not have to do it all. Just one thing in each. My intention for us this week: We stay soft but clear. We protect our peace. We only allow what honors us. Drop in the comments — What is your ONE word for this week? Mine is RESTORED. Let’s make it a whole week, by design.
Happy New Week, beautiful souls 🤍
1 like • 12d
RESTING🙏
🌸 Let's talk about our body energy
Not how much we do. But how much our body is holding. The decisions, the feelings, the hormones, the healing, the building, the children, the business, the finances — it doesn't live in our to-do list. It lives in our body. When we're in survival, our body stores it all. That's why we can sleep and still wake up tired. I'm right there with you tonight. I'm in-between weaning my baby — hormones shifting, emotions everywhere, letting go while becoming again. My body energy is low, and that's okay. It's not failure, it's my body talking. So let's be honest tonight, no guilt: What's the #1 thing draining your body energy this week? Not the task on the surface. The real thing underneath it. The guilt, the mental load, the thing you're holding alone. Let's just name it. No fixing. Just witnessing each other. I'll go first: Weaning + wanting to keep building Whole by Design while my body is asking me to rest. Your turn? 👇 Safe in body, stable in home, powerful in purpose — even on low body energy.
🌸 Let's talk about our body energy
1 like • 21d
@Bridgette Hlaola I think what used to drain my energy was wanting to do everything, attend everything and support everyone. From this month I decided to choose myself and focus on me.No more helping, supporting, calling, checking up and worrying about everyone and attending to everything. I do those things when and if I feel like doing them. This helps me save my energy to focus on myself and my things.It has only been 2 weeks but im really feeling much better.
Reclaimed my 2015 title — People Development Champion, Shell Downstream SA 🏆
Okay family, I have been trying to find my 2015 certificates And then it clicked. I wasn't just attending training. In 2015, I was appointed People Development Champion for Shell Downstream, South Africa. Not Witbank. Not a small site role. The whole Downstream division. South Africa. My role was to champion PEOPLE. To coach. To mentor. To help colleagues grow. That's WHY Shell sent me from Witbank to JHB, to Indaba Hotel, Fourways, for Time Management and Coaching & Mentoring training. They were investing in their champion. Then look what happened: Left pic: 2017, I received the Lead in Transformation Award at Shell Excellence Awards. National recognition. Right pic: Groundworkx tour days — red shirt, red cap, in the van, laughing, doing heart work with women and the less fortunate. No filter. Just service. And I was also part of Shell Women in Africa Network (SWAN), interviewing leaders like Dr Judy Dlamini about Equal But Different. Sis, I have been doing people development for 11 years. 2015: Champion for Shell Downstream SA 2017: Lead in Transformation Award 2025: Founder of Build Wealth with Bridgette, Wealth Coach Legacy Builder for moms 2026: Founder of Whole by Design, Nervous System Coach for single moms. Same assignment. Different uniform. First I helped Shell colleagues regulate and develop. Now I help single moms release what's keeping them stuck, reclaim power, and build a calm CEO life. Purpose leaves clues. I just had to go back to find mine. Your turn: What role or title did you hold 5-10 years ago that was actually preparing you for what you do now? Drop it below. I want to celebrate the thread in YOUR story. 👇 #Throwback #PeopleDevelopmentChampion #WholeByDesign #RememberWhoYouAre
Reclaimed my 2015 title — People Development Champion, Shell Downstream SA 🏆
2 likes • 26d
@Bridgette Hlaola you really took me down memory lane this morning, reminding me about where it all started, My Why?🤍 As I reflected on my journey, I realized just how long this has been coming. I even remembered initiatives and platforms I had almost forgotten about. Looking back, I can now see how every chapter, every initiative, and every experience has contributed to the work I do today. My Journey of Purpose: 2012–2026: 2012 | Women's Empowerment I began by hosting Mother's Day and Women's Day empowerment events, including Who Is in My Circle? and Empowered Women Empower Women, creating spaces to encourage, inspire, and empower women. 2014 | Founder of Serithi I founded Serithi, an initiative dedicated to restoring dignity to the girl child and supporting disadvantaged learners through sanitary wear, toiletries, school shoes, books, and repurposed matric dresses that girls can hire. This initiative continues to this day. A Re Feng Bana Ba Rena — Let us build our children. 2016–2019 | Young Black Widow A platform created to help and support women navigating loss and trauma, reminding them that they did not have to face their journeys alone. 2020 | The Voice for the Voiceless → We Rise by Lifting Others I created a platform to give women who had experienced life's challenges a voice, a space to share their stories, and support as they worked towards rebuilding their lives. Through initiatives and events such as Take Off the Mask, we created opportunities for women to be heard and supported. This work later evolved into We Rise by Lifting Others. 2023–2025 | Property Practitioner My work moved into property sales, with a focus on helping women, particularly single mothers, pursue property ownership as a means of building security, independence, and a better future for their families. 2024–2025 | Real & Business Talk with Queen T and She Builds: Let's Talk Business Through these platforms, I encouraged women to take initiative, start small in business, support one another, and create opportunities to grow their businesses together.
1 like • 26d
@Bridgette Hlaola humbled🙏let's keep on pushing🙌💃
The Woman Who Helped You Survive
Perhaps you know her. Perhaps... she is part of you. [READ THE SCREENSHOT BELOW — slowly] This is from my book Legacy by Design: Remaining Alive in the Chaos — live on Amazon She kept you going when you were tired. She smiled while carrying grief no one saw. She became strong because she had to. For a long time you thought she was the problem. She wasn't. She was protecting the life you had already survived. She doesn't need criticism today. She deserves gratitude. Your gentle moment: Hand on heart — "Thank you. You did so well with what you had." Which line in the screenshot is her for you? Comment that one line below. Let her be seen here. 🤍
The Woman Who Helped You Survive
1 like • Oct 7
@Bridgette Hlaola All the lines in the screenshot is her for me.It felt like I was reading my own story.
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I am QUEEN T, a transformational coach guiding you to think differently, believe greater, and live aligned. Coaching | Transformation | Alignment

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