This week, we explored something that quietly shapes every decision, relationship, and direction in your life: 👉 Your values. Not the values you were told to have. Not the values you perform for others. But the values that genuinely reflect who you are. Take a moment and reflect honestly: – What truly matters to me in life? – What kind of person do I want to be—not perform as, but genuinely become? – Do I live according to my own values… or according to fear, survival, and conditioning? Go deeper: – Which values were rewarded in my family growing up?→ achievement? obedience? silence? caretaking? perfectionism? independence? – Which parts of me had to be suppressed to maintain love, safety, or belonging?→ – Have I built my life around authenticity… or adaptation?→ Reflect on your relationships: – Do my relationships align with my values? – Do I abandon my values to avoid rejection or conflict? – Where in my life am I betraying myself?→ Notice internal conflict: – What values do I deeply admire in others?– Which values feel difficult for me to embody myself?→ And gently ask yourself:👉 If fear, shame, and survival were no longer leading my life… who would I become? 💛 Values are not just ideas.They are the bridge between your authentic self and the life you create.

Now that we are a few classes into the course, I would love to hear from you. How are you finding the course so far? What thoughts, reflections, or insights have come up for you? Do you feel it has been helping you in any way already? Feel free to share as much or as little as you feel comfortable with. I really value your feedback and your experience throughout this journey together ✨

🌿 Welcome to Psychotherapy and Wellbeing Academy! I’m Sylwia Kuchenna – psychotherapist, traumatologist, and guide on the journey from wounds to connection and wisdom. If you want to start healing your inner child, understanding attachment, and transforming trauma into strength, I invite you to visit my YouTube channel: 🎥 Back to Self – YouTube There you’ll find practical guidance, reflections, and insights from my clinical experience to help you reconnect with your authentic self and start your journey toward emotional freedom. 💛 Your healing starts here – take the first step back to yourself. https://www.youtube.com/@sylwiakuchenna1029/featured

This week, we explore something many people try to avoid…but that actually holds powerful information about you: Your triggers. A trigger is not just a reaction. It is an emotional memory being activated in the present moment. Take a moment and reflect: – What situations or behaviours in others trigger a strong emotional reaction in me? – When I feel triggered, what emotion comes up first (anger, shame, fear, sadness)? – Does my reaction feel stronger than the situation itself? – What does this feeling remind me of? – When have I felt this way before in my life? Go deeper: – What story do I tell myself in that moment?(e.g. “I’m not important”, “I’m being rejected”, “I’m not safe”) – What do I feel the urge to do when triggered?(shut down, argue, withdraw, please, control…) And gently ask yourself: 👉 Am I reacting to what is happening now… or to something that happened before? 💛 Awareness of your triggers is not awarenessis. It is the beginning of emotional clarity and real change.

This week, we explore something that has been protecting you for a long time. Your defence mechanisms. They are not mistakes. They are ways your mind learned to keep you safe when emotions felt too overwhelming. Take a moment and reflect: – When I feel emotionally uncomfortable, what do I tend to do? (avoid, shut down, overthink, joke, please, withdraw…) – Do I try to feel less… or to control more? – Do I notice myself explaining things instead of feeling them? – Do I distance myself when things get too close or too emotional? – Do I minimise my own needs or emotions? Go deeper: – What emotion might I be trying to avoid? (anger, sadness, fear, shame…) – When did I first learn that this emotion was “too much” or not safe? – What might have happened if I expressed it back then? And gently ask yourself: 👉 Is this protecting me… or limiting me now? 💛 Your defences once helped you survive. Now, you are learning when they are no longer needed.