you need to help her see the structural gap in her plan by identifying what it costs her to maintain that fence wait for her response to your last message then your response : That makes total sense. It sounds like your setup is a great fence to keep you 'on track' when things are normal But when life gets in the way and that setup breaks how much mental energy does it take to keep yourself from falling off? Does it feel like a constant 'fight' to stay consistent, or is it actually starting to feel effortless?