Just Let Me Laugh: A Caregiver Turned Uber Driver
I pulled up to a medical office complex and watched as a woman made her way toward my car. She moved slowly, deliberatelyâlike someone carrying more than just a purse. It was the kind of posture Iâve learned to recognize over the yearsâthe posture of someone hauling invisible weight. When she slid into the back seat, she let out a sigh that filled the car. Not dramatic. Not loud. Just honest. Her voice was tired but clear, and her words hung in the air like a quiet plea. I caught her eyes in the rearview mirrorâexhausted, but still searching for something light. Something human. I asked what she did at the facility. âIâm a caregiver,â she said. âI work with people living with dementia. Thereâs so much going on at workâwandering, sundowning, confusion, heartbreak. I love them. I really do. But today?â She paused and shook her head. âToday I need a break and a laugh.â I smiled. âYouâre in the right car. Iâve spent years working in senior living. I get it.â She looked relieved. Seen. âOkay,â I said, without hesitation, âhereâs one for you. Why did the chicken cross the playground?â She paused, curious. âI donât know⌠why?â âTo get to the other slide.â For a split second, there was silence. Then she burst out laughingânot a polite chuckle, but the kind of laugh that bubbles up from somewhere deep and forgotten. The kind that surprises even the person laughing. âThatâs so dumb,â she said between giggles, wiping her eyes. âBut itâs exactly what I needed.â From there, the car turned into a comedy club on wheels. We swapped storiesâthe kind only caregivers truly understand. She told me about a resident in memory care who once insisted I was her long-lost nephew and made me promise to take her to the circus. About a gentleman who serenades staff with Elvis songs every morning, complete with hip shakes and finger guns. We laughed about how dementia rewrites realityâand how sometimes the kindest thing you can do is step into that reality instead of correcting it. We joked about the endless supply of cookies in break rooms, caffeine-fueled survival tactics, and the universal truth that every care team has at least one person who swears by essential oils for everything. We laughed because laughter was the one medicine she hadnât run out of. By the time we reached her destinationâa local diner where she planned to treat herself to pie and silenceâher shoulders had lifted. Her eyes sparkled. She looked lighter. Freer. Like someone who had just remembered what it felt like to breathe. I watched her walk inside and sat there for a moment, thinking about what had just happened. Laughter isnât just relief. Itâs resistance. Itâs how caregivers reclaim a piece of themselves in the chaos. How do they remind themselves theyâre still human? Still whole. Still worthy of joy. That day, the back seat wasnât just a ride. It was a release. And sometimes, the best care we can offer isnât advice or answersâ Itâs a good laugh and a safe place to land. Reflection Caregiving is heavy work. It holds grief, responsibility, unpredictability, and constant vigilance. But woven through that weight is something just as powerfulâhumor. Not because the work is funny, but because laughter becomes a lifeline. In caregiving spaces, laughter isnât disrespectful. Itâs survival. Itâs how caregivers keep going when logic fails, plans unravel, and emotions overflow. Itâs a reminder that joy can still existâeven in the middle of hard. This ride reminded me that sometimes people donât need solutions. They need a moment where their nervous system can unclenchâa place where itâs safe to laugh, even at the absurdity of it all. And sometimes, healing sounds like giggles echoing in the back seat of a car. Questions to Sit With When was the last time you laughed freelyâwithout guilt or explanation? How does humor show up (or disappear) in your caregiving journey? What moments of levity help you feel human again? Who offers you a safe space to laugh when the weight feels heavy? And how might you permit yourself to seek joyânot as escape, but as care? Because laughter isnât a luxury for caregivers. Itâs medicine.