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You're not free if you're exhausted. Teach your body and mind to produce reliably great sleep in a matter of weeks. Proven sleep health protocols.

149 contributions to Night School: Sleep & Dreams
The Human Alarm Clock? ⏰🤷🏻‍♀️
People used to pay a stranger to shoot peas at their bedroom window every morning. Her name was Mary Smith, and in 1930s East London she walked the streets before dawn firing dried peas at bedroom windows until the person inside got up. She was a knocker-upper. Yes, that’s the name 😁 Before alarm clocks were cheap and reliable, British factory workers paid someone to come and wake them. Turn up late to the mill and you were fined. So people paid a stranger to pull them out of sleep on time. I came across this while reading about the history of sleep and I keep thinking about it. The job disappeared decades ago. The idea behind it stuck around. Most of us still wake to something outside ourselves deciding when the night is over. And a lot of the people I work with have gone one step further. The knocker-upper now lives in their head. "If I'm not asleep by 11, tomorrow's ruined." "I need my 8 hours or I won't be able to function." Checking the sleep score before they've opened their eyes properly. Sleep becomes one more thing to perform well at. The problem is that sleep doesn't respond to effort. It happens when the body feels safe enough to let go, and pressure tells the nervous system to stay alert. So you lie there working hard at sleeping while your body keeps watch. A big part of my work with clients is helping the body learn that the night belongs to it again. If your nights feel like a shift you keep failing, start with a Sleep Strategy Session. In one call we look at what's keeping your body on guard at night and map out what would help it let go. The link and details are here: https://your.restfulsleep.eu/method
The Human Alarm Clock? ⏰🤷🏻‍♀️
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@Klara Vasutova happy that it resonated with you!
A man in Tokyo paid to do NOTHING
There's a man in Tokyo who has been booked about 4,000 times to do nothing. His name is Shoji Morimoto. He used to work at a publishing company where his bosses kept telling him he wasn't contributing enough. Eventually he started to wonder whether doing nothing might be worth something to someone. In 2018 he advertised himself on Twitter as a "rental person who does nothing." The requests came in. People wanted someone to eat a meal with, someone to wave them off at a train station, someone to sit next to during a hard moment they didn't want to face alone. He keeps them company and answers simply, without offering advice or trying to entertain anyone. I keep thinking about this story in relation to sleep. A lot of the people I work with lie awake alone at 3am with a mind that won't settle. They've tried the apps and the supplements. What I often find underneath is a body that doesn't feel safe enough to let go. We evolved to sleep near other people. Another person breathing in the room once meant someone else was keeping watch. When we feel alone, part of the nervous system stays on alert, and sleep gets lighter and more broken. Research on loneliness has found this pattern again and again. In my 1:1 sessions, some of the most useful moments are when I'm not fixing anything at all. Someone talks while I listen, and after a while their breathing slows down. Morimoto built a whole livelihood around being there without an agenda. Most of us could offer that to someone this week.
A man in Tokyo paid to do NOTHING
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@Agatha Van Schalkwyk I am so glad you found it interesting. Hope you had a good sleep!
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@Lindi Harmse coregulation for the win! I have heard people say that they miss the rhythmic sound of their partner snoring, so go figure! ☺️💜
Dating apps & sleep types 🙃📱
How matched are your partner’s and your sleeping patterns? (See video below!) Sleep psychologist Michael Breus sorts people into four chronotypes: 🦁 Lion: up early, sharpest before lunch, fading by 9pm. 🐻 Bear: follows the sun. Most people are bears. Good in the late morning, slumpy after lunch. 🐺 Wolf: slow mornings, comes alive in the evening, happy to be up at 1am. 🐬 Dolphin: a light sleeper who wakes easily and often feels tired and wired. Named after dolphins, which sleep with half their brain awake. It’s a loose shorthand, and your body clock can shift with age, light and stress. It’s still a handy way to understand why one of you is chatty at 7am and the other one isn’t. Which one are you, and which one is your partner(s)? Tell me 👇
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@Lindi Harmse that's great! It's not an absolute must to be fully in-sync with a partner, but it definitely helps, especially if you have a family and/or business together. Plus, the added element of getting to fall asleep together, which supports co-regulation.
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@Lindi Harmse just did a morning meditation with my partner, first one together, so was delighted to read this comment 💜💜
What did you dream last night? ✨
I LOVE hearing about other peoples dreams. Especially because I am trained in Lucid dreaming facilitation, and I use dreams as an entry point into my own unconscious almost on a daily basis. I am a nerd for dream interpretation of all kinds. So this biweekly Dream Circle is envisioned as a space where dreamers of all kinds, including those that barely remember any dreams at all, are welcome to convene, share their dreams, and get their dreams interpreted with the help of the community. I would love to have you there. It’s tonight at 5 pm UK time. The link to the video call is in the Calendar tab. Come on time, but stay as long as you like, no need to stay for the full hour. And if you’re not able to join tonight, feel free to drop your dream in the comments and I would be happy to offer an “ if this were my dream” interpretation. Até já!
What did you dream last night? ✨
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@Lindi Harmse how on earth did you find the PERFECT gif for this?? :)
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@Lindi Harmse thanks for sharing! Do you want to play with a bit of dream interpretation (done exclusively by you!)? Here is the suggestion from Jungian dreamwork. Robert A. Johnson lays this out in Inner Work as two four-step methods. You can use them together: work the dream first, then go back into it with active imagination. Working the dream 1. Associations. Write the dream down. Take each image one at a time and note whatever it brings up for you. Always come back to the original image rather than following a chain of associations away from it. Keep the ones that carry a charge. 2. Dynamics. For each image, ask “What part of me is this?” Treat every figure and object as an aspect of your own psyche. Then look for where that part shows up in your actual life right now. 3. Interpretation. Put it together into a meaning. Johnson’s test is to prefer the reading that tells you something you didn’t already know. Be suspicious of readings that flatter you or put the blame on someone else. 4. Ritual. Do something small and physical to honour what the dream showed you: a walk, lighting a candle, a change in a habit. This is what makes it real rather than just an idea. Active imagination with a dream figure 1. Invitation. Sit quietly, call up a figure or scene from the dream, and let it come to life on its own. Don’t script it. 2. Dialogue. Talk to the figure and let it answer. Write the exchange down as it happens. Engage as yourself, with your own feelings and questions, rather than watching from a distance. 3. Ethical element. Bring your conscious values into the conversation. You listen to the figure, but you don’t hand it control. If it demands something that goes against who you are, you push back. 4. Ritual. Close by grounding what came out of it in a concrete act, same as with the dream. Would love to hear if you try any of this out!
How do you know you slept well? 🤔
I've been guilty of deciding what my day would be like based on the sleep score on my (now retired) Oura ring. 🫥 Somewhere around 80? Yeah, fine. 🤝 60-70? I’d spend the morning telling myself I was going to be tired, and then, lo and behold, I would feel tired. 🥱 Some days I would be in the high 90s range and still feel like I’d been dragged through the mud. These days I pay more attention to how I feel around 3 pm. If my breathing is deep and smooth, if I am not inexplicably irritable, and if I get through the afternoon dip without needing a nap, the night was probably somewhere in the good to great range. Most of the people I work with come in with a clear idea of what good sleep is **supposed** to look like. Usually it’s an hour count or a score on an app, and a lot of the stress around sleep comes from measuring themselves against it. But what is often missing is the very personal and embodied awareness of the signals of health (or lack thereof) that our body gives us all the time. If we pay attention. So I’m curious...how do you know you slept well? ⬇️
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How do you know you slept well? 🤔
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@Lindi Harmse thanks for sharing! And that's really interesting because for a lot of people who chronically have trouble sleeping (which might not be you, in this case), waking up before their alarm is alarming (no pun intended :) ), and a sign of the exact opposite.
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Sleep Coach helping people get reliably restful sleep and overcome insomnia through behaviour change, embodiment practices and sleep health learnings.

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