Hello Marriage Society! Are you planning anything special for Valentine's Day!

My husband asked if I wanted a snack from the store. With excitement, I said, “Yes, please. Get me some plain Utz!“ Welp, my sugar pie came back with EATZ! Now, mentally, I was expecting to devour those UTZ chips. As a matter of fact, I could already taste them. So you know I was thrown off when I looked at the name on the bag and it read EATZ! In that moment…I had two choices: 1. Clown him and fuss about how he didn’t listen. 2. Appreciate the fact that he wanted to get it right, even if he missed. Sometimes in marriage (and life), people miss the mark. Not because they don’t love you. Not because they’re trying to be careless. They miss the mark because they’re human. You asked for UTZ. They heard EATZ. Whoop dee do…You still got chips. 🤣 Stop expecting perfection. Stop letting small missteps make you forget the heart behind the gesture. Be grateful for the effort, not just the outcome. Drop a “😂🙃❤️” if you've ever had a “this ain’t what I asked for… but thank you” moment.

Those in the best marriages aren’t always scanning the field for an upgrade. Even on the days when I don’t “like” something my husband does, I love him enough to remember that I’m not always easy to live with either. Remember this…the grass is greener where you water it.

A bad moment doesn’t equal a bad marriage. Every relationship faces storms, but the outcome depends entirely on your perspective when the wind starts to blow. Most importantly: Do not let guilt move in. I remember when Brandon and I remarried. We had plenty of bad moments. We were trying to resolve the rubble of the 'old' marriage while building the 'new' one. It was exhausting. I remember thinking, 'Is this second marriage just as bad as the first?' A dear friend stepped in and reminded me of this truth that has resonated with me to this day: Bad moments happen, but they do not have to define your marriage. If you had a bad moment today, don't let it become the blueprint for your tomorrow. Shake off the guilt, learn the lesson, and keep building. Has a 'bad moment' ever made you question your 'good marriage'? Let’s talk about it in the comments.

What my wife and I have learned in the past 4 years is that growing together is learning about each other. Although there are many aspects about each other that are the same when we were dating we are not the same person we were when we first got married. A long with growing together we got continue to learn about each other as we change and with the continue to fall in love with each other as well. We were growing but getting frustrated with each other because we weren’t learning about each other her learning about my passions needs as a man and her passion needs as a woman. Once we learned that we became like newly weds again. It was exciting, although we gone on many dates together as a married couple we also began to pursue each other. When we started doing that we learned to trigger each other less we became more patient with each other. We saw a change our marriage was never really in trouble but it is better than it ever was.