So I was in a relationship with my ex for 3 years everything was perfect I thought she was my soulmate I wanted to marry this girl I was super in love with her trusted her without a doubt this past august I took her out for her birthday everything was perfect she always told me she would never leave me that she loved me that she was happy with me even on the day I took her out for her birthday shortly after she became distant and kinda cold till one day she stopped sharing her location with me so I messaged her and asked her if she was leaving me she texted me back the next day a whole paragraph basically saying she wasn’t happy in the relationship and that she wanted to be alone saying her mental health wasn’t good and it was cowardly of her to do it over text and basically saying how I didn’t deserve to get told like that because I have always been loyal and good to her well the same day I found out she was with someone else and the month after she got pregnant by that dude and shortly after married him the whole thing hit my like a truck it was like someone took my heart out and stomped on it I’ve been going to a therapist and clinging on to the lord heavily but my spark is gone the first couple months were hell and I’ve just started to feel a little like myself but I can’t shake off the feeling that I was betrayed I trusted her I gave her everything I was there for her when she didn’t have the strength to believe in herself it basically feels like I built her up for someone else I’m a little better but there are times we’re I can’t seem to move on

So i was dating this girl for 8 months and 5 days ago she left my life and i need to heal how do i forget about her im so done with this love stuff😔

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