So many of us have heard it: regulated parent = regulated child. And somewhere along the way, we hear it as: “If I were calmer, my kids would be calmer.” So we put on the calm mask. Soft voice. Deep breath. Push it down. Get through dinner, bath, bedtime... and then it comes out anyway. Here’s the thing: our kids feel what’s happening in our nervous system, not just what’s on our face. And holding it all in drains us 😮‍💨 You can’t think your way through an emotion.What’s been building lives in your body, and that’s where the breath comes in. It gives it all somewhere to go. Not calmer. More YOU. More present. More forgiving with yourself. More available for your kids 💛 And if you’ve been hard on yourself lately: if you could have, you would have. And when you can... you will. Tell us below 👇 When do you most notice yourself putting on the calm mask? We are right here, reading each reply 🙏

Welcome to the Parenting in PEACE circle! I am so happy you are here! Before you begin Day One, download the resources below. These tools have been designed to support your journey over the next three days and help you get the most from this challenge. https://canva.link/adhd-parenting-guide https://canva.link/fb2r5m2o98vssx9 - Welcome + how to use the group - The 5-Minute Reset: calm your body before you respond - Why ADHD behavior isn't defiance (brain-based, not bad parenting) Module 2: Pause (Stop the Yelling) - Your yelling triggers + how to spot them early - The 10-second pause script - What to do after you've already yelled (repair) - Burnout recovery: small daily resets for exhausted parents Module 3: Empathize + Acknowledge - Seeing the need behind the behavior - Validation phrases that defuse meltdowns fast - Handling big emotions without taking them personally Module 4: Coach (Solution Videos by Behavior) - Meltdowns and tantrums - Not listening / ignoring directions - Morning routine chaos - Homework battles - Transitions (screens off, leaving the house) - Hitting, throwing, or talking back - Sibling fights - Bedtime struggles Module 5: Empower - Visual routines and charts that work for ADHD - Rewards and consequences that don't backfire - Building your child's self-regulation skills - Talking to teachers about behavior and supports Bonus Library - Calm-Down Corner setup - Printable scripts and cheat sheets - "Emergency" videos: public meltdown, school call, rough night Tips: - Keep videos 5-10 minutes with one action step each. - Add a downloadable script with every solution video. - Use a "Stuck?" thread where members post a behavior and you answer with a video. - Post a weekly live Q&A to build momentum. For the days when you feel: 👉 overstimulated 👉 behind 👉 mentally exhausted It helps you reset so you can come back feeling lighter 💜

The PEACE Circle is a supportive community for parents who want to respond instead of react, and raise confident kids without losing their own calm. Led by Selah Mitchell, M.Ed, a certified trauma-informed parenting coach with 25+ years in behavioral health, school counseling, and family services, this space is built around the P.E.A.C.E. Method™: Pause, Empathize, Acknowledge, Coach, Empower. Inside you'll get: - Weekly lessons and practical tools you can use the same day - Live Q&A and coaching calls - Scripts for tough moments (meltdowns, power struggles, bedtime battles) - A judgment-free community of parents who get it - Printable guides and resources - Challenge points given - by end of the month you get a 50$ gift card