@Charlotte Bartowski first off, great to hear from you. Yes, I absolutly agree with your contradictory argument. It's the context of when and howoften a person is exposed to such taboo content. I was also going to add in the opposite benefits of spicing things up in a marriage, but that's a different argument My views were projected toward the direction of unhealthy practices outside or within a longterm relationship. Speaking from a clinical prospective, in the aforestated conditions like dysperunia and vaginismus, or even delayed ejaculations etc. moderation in foreplay activities are generally recommended by NHS and other globally ranked clinicians who struggle with difficult and otherwise painful intercourse. I was mostly highlighting the devastating impact on excessive porn addiction that consumes a person. Collectively, setting healthy boundaries and having an open dialogue between couples is a best way to proceed with certain desires and fantasies. It's a complex paradoxical argument and as the saying goes 'Excess of everything is bad". Hope that makes sense and gives you more clarity.