I wanted to clarify what I said yesterday about saying "no". The person who asked it was worried about hurting others people's feelings when you say "no". This is understandable and something I used to think, too. There are a few layers to this. One is the fact that you can say "no" in a benevolent way that makes the other person understand that it is ok you cannot do it. For instance, if someone asks you to hang out but you have an important deadline, you can say something along the lines of "Thanks for the invite but I got work I need to get done." You are not saying "no" yet you are conveying that you are not available. Second is detaching yourself from other people's reactions. I am not saying to be apathetic. It is recognizing that you can only control your actions and emotions, not the other person. Third, when you do not say "no", you are compromising on your goals and time. You are allowing other people to take precedent over your energy. When you say "yes", people will keep coming to you and eventually, you will be spread thin. I understand this sounds extreme and I am not saying to shut out everyone. It is all about choosing what serves your prospects for the life you want. Like jakobi said, he doesn't party, he goes hiking. Not everything must be rejected, rather, evaluated based on your circumstances.

Just wanted to show my gratitude to Mr.Davis and Jakobi for hosting this series. Now that the online meetings are done, what is next? Jakobi says he will have q and a's. But I think we, as a community, should check in here. We have the tools, now we implement them. We can keep each other in check through this forum. At the end of the day, our progress comes from within. Holding each other accountable is beneficial to staying on track. We are not islands but our islands are all different. The waters around do not behave the same way. (Sounds cliche I know.) Thoughts?

Howdy! Hope everyone is staying warm and safe during the snow storm, including those who are not in the pathway. With the snow anticipated to be non-stop for the rest of the day into tomorrow, I think it is time to tackle what we have been missing. Yesterday, we talked about how people perceive us based on our efforts. Some people, including myself, believed that others would question the effort we put in. Since this arctic blast has confined us to staying indoors, we should take advantage of this time to put in the effort we haven't been. No matter what you or I are working on, it is possible now, even if it took mother nature to push us in this direction. Hope you all make progress today and the days to come!

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