Across years of working in leadership development, peacebuilding, organisational transformation, and decolonial inquiry, I have witnessed a simple truth: spaces change when we change the way we hold them. Not through technique, but through presence. Not through authority, but through humility. And not through speed, but through relational depth. Facilitating with a Decolonising Ethic is my offering to that truth: a synthesis of what I have learned while holding rooms shaped by power, history, grief, imagination, and the longing for repair. This manual distils the practices that help a space breathe: grounding that slows inherited urgency, questions that open rather than direct, multilingual and trauma-aware approaches that honour many forms of knowing, and an ethic of care that resists extraction and performance. I created this because so many of us are seeking ways to convene that do not replicate the very systems we hope to transform. If you are working at the intersections of leadership, justice, ecology, community, or inner development, I hope this resource serves you. If you feel called into conversation or collaboration, you are welcome to reach me at [email protected] May this work support those who hold space as an act of courage, clarity, and repair.

Dear community we wanted to let you know that we've created a Classroom with the recordings from the 'Decolonising the IDGs' sessions with @Rukmini Iyer earlier this year. In case you missed them, maybe the Holidays are a good time to catch up on the recordings. Just go here. Please engage in the comments if/when you watch them.

Dear all, here is an attempt at consolidating the learnings from our Decolonising Inner Development conversation series: https://medium.com/rukmini-iyer/decolonising-inner-development-an-ethic-for-re-patterning-systems-and-frameworks-332bd657c8c2 Thank you so much for engaging with this work! I really value it.

Some of you had asked to access the documents that we co-created during the breakout conversations in this series - please find them attached here.

Hi! Here's the recording of the third conversation in this series, along with the accompanying worksheet if you wish to reflect further. Also, here are some of my reflections after this conversation: https://rukminiiyer.medium.com/decolonising-inner-development-reflections-from-session-3-307390abb886