Okay I need to be honest about something that's been happening and that I was too embarrassed to mention until now. The hair loss. I knew about morning sickness. I knew about sleep deprivation. I knew about the emotional waves. But nobody — and I mean NOBODY — warned me that I would be standing in the shower every morning watching handfuls of my hair go down the drain. It started around week 8 postpartum and it has been INTENSE. 😩 Here's what I've learned about what's actually happening: During pregnancy your oestrogen keeps all your hair in the growth phase — so you actually have MORE hair than normal. It feels thick and amazing. Then after birth your hormones crash. And all that hair that should have fallen out over the last 9 months — falls out at once. It's called Telogen Effluvium. It's normal. It's temporary. And it is absolutely terrifying when you don't know that. 😅 What I'm doing about it: 💚 Prioritising iron — deficiency makes it significantly worse and breastfeeding already depletes it 💚 Protein at every meal — your hair is literally made of the protein you eat 💚 2 minute scalp massage every morning — increases blood flow to follicles 💚 Being gentle with myself — because stress literally prolongs hair loss. The irony. 😂 I'm sharing this because I spent two weeks quietly panicking before I found out this was completely normal. You deserve to know too. 🌱 👇 Are you experiencing postpartum hair loss? How are you coping with it? Tell me everything — this is a safe space 💚🌿

I'm going to be honest with you. I thought I knew what to expect after giving birth. I was wrong. Nobody — not the books, not the doctors, not even my mother — prepared me for what actually happens to your body in those first weeks. So here's what I wish someone had sat next to me and said: 🌿 That "still pregnant" feeling is real — your uterus takes 6 full weeks to shrink back 🌿 The emotional crash after birth isn't weakness — your hormones drop so fast it literally mimics withdrawal 🌿 Your bones gave their calcium to your baby during pregnancy — you are built from what you gave 🌿 Your brain physically changes shape after becoming a mother — to make you more attuned to your baby than you've ever been to anyone This is not your body failing you. This is not something to "bounce back" from. This is the most extraordinary thing a human body can do. And you — yes YOU — did that. 🌱 I'm sharing everything I'm learning and experiencing here — the science, the reality, the messy middle of it. Because you deserve to know what's actually happening inside you. And you deserve to feel less alone in it. 💚 👇 Tell me — what do YOU wish someone had told you after birth? Or if you're not a mother yet — what surprises you most about this? This is a safe space. Share anything. 🌿

Sometimes I sit in silence after feeding my baby and think about how many versions of myself I have already been. Years ago, I worked in hospital laboratories as a biomedical scientist. My days were structured, clinical, predictable. Later, I completely changed direction and built my own sushi catering business. I worked incredibly hard, spent years building relationships, serving clients, managing stress, surviving pressure, and trying to create freedom for myself. From the outside, it probably looked like I had built a strong life. But life has a way of changing you again and again. A few months ago, I became a mother again at 40 years old. My oldest child is almost sixteen and a half, so starting over with a newborn after so many years feels almost unreal sometimes. Beautiful… but also confronting. Motherhood changed something in me. Not only physically, but mentally and emotionally too. Lately, I’ve been realizing how exhausted I truly became over the years. How disconnected I slowly grew from myself while constantly surviving, working, caregiving, building, pushing, and carrying everything. And if I’m honest… becoming a mother again also brought old wounds back to the surface. Trauma I thought I had buried. Limiting beliefs I thought I had outgrown. Parts of myself that still needed healing. So now I’m in this strange season of life where I’m trying to rebuild myself while caring for a tiny human at the same time. I’m learning how to nourish my body again. How to take care of my mental health. How to slow down. How to stop living in survival mode. How to become softer without becoming weak. Some days I feel inspired and hopeful. Other days I feel completely lost. But maybe many women secretly feel that way too. Maybe there are more mothers lying awake at night wondering: Who am I now? What do I want from life now? How do I rebuild myself after everything I’ve been through? I don’t have all the answers yet. I’m still figuring it out myself. But maybe that’s exactly where something meaningful begins.

I'm so glad you're here. This community was built at 11pm while breastfeeding my newborn. That felt like the most honest way to start something called Rebuilding Her. 🤱 I'm a biomedical scientist and mental coach — and a few months ago I had my second baby at 40, with a 16-year gap between my kids. My body is tired. My mind is full. And I'm rebuilding myself — honestly, messily, out loud. This is not a highlight reel. This is the real work. 🌱 I want this to be a space where we rebuild together — our bodies, our minds, our sense of self. So let me start with a question: 👇 What brought you here today? What are YOU rebuilding right now? Tell me everything. This is a safe space. 💚