"𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗶𝗳 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗯𝗮𝗱 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗻𝘀?" "What if they leave?" "What if this ruins everything?" "What if I fail?". What if, what if, what if.... Ever notice how if we engage in "what if" type thinking, it's often towards the negative? Our brains (unless we've trained them well) have the tendency to default to looking out for the negative/looking out for problems. It's wired for safety and so the "what if" is a question that can feel productive, but if we end up stopping there, is often very not productive. We get stuck in the loop and it leaves us anxious. We don't always go to the solution part of that...It's not only not always productive but it ends up stealing joy from the current moment. Here’s the problem:“What if” pulls you into imagined futures where you have zero control and infinite variables. It creates emotional consequences for events that haven’t happened and that may never happen. It also doesn't take into account that future self--the self that has more information, the self that may be well equipped to handle whatever comes. "𝑾𝒐𝒓𝒓𝒚 𝒊𝒔 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒕 𝒑𝒂𝒊𝒅 𝒐𝒏 𝒕𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒃𝒍𝒆 𝒃𝒆𝒇𝒐𝒓𝒆 𝒊𝒕 𝒇𝒂𝒍𝒍𝒔 𝒅𝒖𝒆" and " 𝑾𝒐𝒓𝒓𝒚 𝒊𝒔 𝒊𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒕 𝒑𝒂𝒊𝒅 𝒊𝒏 𝒂𝒅𝒗𝒂𝒏𝒄𝒆 𝒐𝒏 𝒂 𝒅𝒆𝒃𝒕 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒎𝒂𝒚 𝒏𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓 𝒐𝒘𝒆"are two quotes that come to mind when it comes to this....but okay, instead of saying "just stop with the What ifs"...let's redirect this energy and use some strategies! :) 𝕋𝕣𝕪 𝕥𝕙𝕚𝕤: 1. Turn “What if?” into “What’s likely?”Anxious brains deal in possibility. Grounded brains deal in probability. Most catastrophic outcomes are low likelihood but high emotional intensity. 2. Follow it with a plan.If the feared outcome did happen, what would you actually do? 3. Ask a better question.Instead of “What if this goes wrong?”Try: “What if this goes well?”Or even better: “What would the strongest version of me do next?” This is related to the point above about planning for it! Planning is different than worrying. But, remember, you can't plan for absolutely every single outcome...(think about the mental energy/time spent thinking/planning vs. what it would take to deal with the situation when it arises)

I have a lot on my mind right now with the fall of my grandpa this morning even do we are not so close he still the only grandpas I have a alive he is going be 88 this April and he just broke his hip. This video really help me calm down

Hi I 'm Rebecca and I am from New-Brunswick Canada. My carrer is a cleaner at a peatmoss plant so it always so dusty. My hobbies are reading, doing some diamond art, knit diahcloth

There's so much talk about "triggers" which are the things that activate stress, fear, and shutdown, but what if we focused on "glimmers" for a bit instead? A “glimmer” is a small moment that sparks a subtle sense of safety, joy, gratitude, or connection. Seeing a text pop up from someone you care about (or better yet, the sincere content of a text), the rain on the roof as you're snuggled under a blanket, the crackle of a fire, a laugh that brings you a sense of joy. These are micro-moments--they can be easy to miss but so so powerful if we allow ourselves to notice them. :) These activate our parasympathetic system and they signal "you're safe right now". This is a nice feeling :) When we become intentional about noticing these we increase our emotional regulation, we build resilience to stress, we strengthen neural pathways for gratitude and joy, we shift attention bias AWAY from threat-scanning, and we improve mood over time. :) Since our brains typically lean towards scanning for the negative/threats, we need to be intentional about looking out for the glimmers. Neurons that fire together, wire together! :) POLL: How often do you consciously notice glimmers? QUESTION: What have been some of the glimmers that you experienced in the past week? :) ✨ Action Step: For the next 3 days, write down three glimmers each evening.

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