Take a moment to get as comfortable as you can. You can sit. You can lie down. You can keep your eyes open. You can close them. There is no right position for this practice. Today, we are not trying to fix your body. We are not trying to make your symptoms disappear. We are simply going to practice being with ourselves while our body is doing something difficult. Take a moment to notice where you are. Notice the surface supporting you. Maybe you can feel the bed beneath you. Maybe you can feel the chair beneath you. You don't have to change anything. Just notice. Notice Your Breathing Now, gently bring your attention to your breathing. You do not need to take a deep breath. You do not need to slow your breathing down. Just notice that you are breathing. Maybe your breath feels easy. Maybe it feels uncomfortable. Maybe you don't notice much at all. Whatever you notice is okay. If focusing on your breathing makes you uncomfortable, let your attention move somewhere else. You can focus on the feeling of the blanket against your skin. The weight of your body against the bed. The sound of a fan. The feeling of your feet. Your hands. Something you can see in the room. Mindfulness does not require us to focus on one particular thing. It asks us to notice what is happening right now. Now ask yourself: “What is one kind thing I can do for my body right now?” Maybe the answer is rest. Maybe it is drinking some water. Maybe it is asking someone for help. Maybe it is contacting your doctor. Maybe it is simply putting your phone down and closing your eyes. Whatever the answer is, let it be enough. You don't have to heal all at once. You don't have to accomplish anything during this practice. You are allowed to be sick. You are allowed to be tired. You are allowed to take up space while your body recovers. For this moment, just be here. ----- This is something that helped me this last week as i recover from Covid/the flu. And that I wanted to share as we are entering the window of flu season.

Our brains don't like unanswered questions. When we don't know what someone meant, what will happen, or why something happened, the mind often fills in the blanks. And unfortunately, it tends to fill them with whatever we fear most. When you catch yourself thinking: “They probably think…” “Something bad is going to happen…” “They haven't responded because…” “This means…” Pause. Then separate what you know from what you're assuming. Ask yourself: 1. What do I actually know? Only the observable facts. 2. What am I adding to the situation? Your interpretation, prediction, fear, or expectation. 3. What else could be true? Come up with at least two alternative explanations. You don't have to believe the alternatives. You're simply reminding your brain: “I don't have enough information to know yet.” Instead of saying: “This is definitely what is happening.” Practice saying: “Maybe. Maybe not. I can wait for more information.” Today's Challenge Pick one uncertainty today. Don't investigate it. Don't overthink it. Don't seek reassurance about it. Just notice when your brain starts writing the ending. Take a breath and say: “That's a possibility, not a fact.” Then return your attention to whatever is actually happening in front of you. Mindfulness isn't always about finding peace. Sometimes it's learning to tolerate not knowing. Today's Mantra “I can exist in the unknown without creating an answer.”

We move through dozens of “doorways” every day—leaving your bedroom, getting into your car, walking into work, entering a store, sitting down at a table. Usually, your body crosses the threshold while your mind is already somewhere else. Today, make one doorway a deliberate reset point. Choose one doorway you will encounter today. Before crossing it: 1. Stop. Don't immediately walk through. 2. Feel your feet. Notice the pressure beneath each foot. 3. Take one normal breath. Don't force it to be deep. 4. Look at the doorway. Notice its shape, color, texture, or light. 5. Ask yourself: “What am I carrying into the next room that I don't need to carry?” Don't force an answer. Maybe it's frustration. Maybe it's yesterday. Maybe it's a conversation you're replaying. Maybe it's absolutely nothing. Then cross the doorway. This isn't about making yourself calm. It's about interrupting autopilot. That tiny moment can become a surprisingly powerful place to choose your next action instead of automatically reacting.

Here's a simple grounding breathing exercise you can do today. Step 1 Sit comfortably with both feet on the floor or lie down if that's more comfortable. Relax your shoulders and gently unclench your jaw. Step 2 Slowly breathe in through your nose for 4 seconds. 1... 2... 3... 4... Step 3 Hold your breath for 4 seconds. 1... 2... 3... 4... Step 4 Slowly breathe out through your mouth for 4 seconds, letting the air leave naturally. 1... 2... 3... 4... Step 5 Hold with your lungs empty for 4 seconds. 1... 2... 3... 4... Step 6 Repeat this cycle 8 times. As you breathe, silently say: - Inhale: I am here. - Hold: I am safe. - Exhale: I let go. - Hold: I begin again. When you're finished, take one normal breath and notice three things: 1. One thing you can see. 2. One thing you can hear. 3. One thing you can feel. You don't have to feel calm by the end. The goal is simply to remind your nervous system that this moment is different from the moments that taught it to stay on high alert.

Sometimes the most revealing moments in therapy come from the shortest conversations. My therapist asked me two simple questions. "If you call them, will they answer?" I said, "Probably not." Then they asked, "If they call you, will you answer?" Without thinking, I replied, "Of course." My thoughts on this: Sometimes trauma, people-pleasing, or years of inconsistent relationships teach us to expect less from others while continuing to give everything ourselves. We become the reliable one. The one who always answers. The one who always shows up. Even when experience tells us that same effort may not be returned. Over time, that imbalance starts to feel normal. But healthy relationships are not built on one person always reaching out, always understanding, always waiting, or always being available. They are built on mutual care. If you find yourself expecting disappointment from others while holding yourself to a higher standard, it may be worth asking why. Not because there's something wrong with you. But because you deserve the same consistency, care, and effort that you so freely give to everyone else.