In one of the training videos (I forget which one because I binged watched them all,) Mark recommended this book Better Man, Better Marriage. The Audible app had a free trial offer so I signed up and picked this book for my free audio book for the month. It’s damn good and a must read/listen. One perk of my job is I get to put on headphones and listen to podcasts/ audio books all day as I install/sand floors so it’s easy for me to kill two birds with one stone and consume content. Give this a listen if your looking for help on how to be a better husband if/when we win our wives back

I am I down right now my mind is playing games I am getting anxious

I just watched the first five lessons from the weekly video training and all five were incredibly helpful and reinforced my conviction on what I need to do, especially lesson five. I’ve been going through waves of resentment because I really do get angry that my wife isn’t putting in any work and it’s very defeating but your lesson five video gave me a light bulb moment on the mindset I need to have if I want my wife back. I’ll be listening to the rest of the lessons tomorrow at work while I’m sanding hardwood floors. I’ve listened to tons of videos on YouTube about how to save my marriage but yours are by far the best and I’m grateful I found these gems in this Skool app community. Thank you again Mark.

Good afternoon all Well, yet another mixed weekend for me I had a really bad day on Thursday and struggled mentally and emotionally. I hardly got any sleep and I still don’t know how I got through Friday. But whilst I was struggling to sleep, I was thinking to myself I can’t keep doing this. I need to be better. I need to stop breaking and crumbling and saying the same things over and over again to her. So on Friday, there was from us there wasn’t any need and I got them with my Day forgot about everything as best as I could then knowing Saturday I had my children and I saw her and we were absolutely fine and I was as normal as I can be and I had on Saturday Come Sunday when I took the kids back home my plan was not to stay. It was to drop them off. Have a quick chat with her and be on my way however as soon as she knew that I wasn’t staying her mood flipped like a light switch and she went. Very short and with a tone to me now I’m not saying she wanted me to stay or anything like that later on she messaged me to say she was just having a bad day. But from all of that I ended up doing what I do best currently and breaking down yet again albeit no tears this time that’s saying the same things that I can be this man I can do that etc etc. But they’re not ultimately affected my mood once again and I felt that this time it was not instigated or anything that I had done, but I’m the one that now comes across and looks portrayed in a bad light She said I hadn’t done anything wrong and everything was fine this morning, Monday but once again we ended up getting onto the same subjects and she even said it was going so well but here we are again but then we both tried to shut it down and she said let’s stop now before we ruin it. But today my mental day has been absolutely all I’ve hardly done any work and I’ve broken many times in my Work toilet I’m just struggling so bad to keep it together when I’m deep down I feel that I know that my marriage is completely over and I don’t think no matter what she’ll ever give me the chance but yet she won’t tell me that it’s officially over because I feel that whilst in the current situation I’m still paying towards the house and it’s financially stable for her the kids me and everything is hunky-dory because as soon as says that there is no hope whatsoever she knows it’s going to be a lot more pain in terms of having to sell houses or sort mortgages out.

Here’s my story. Married 12 years with two young kids. About 4 months ago my wife hit me with the “I don’t want to do this anymore” (after a fight) followed by the “I love you but I’m not in love with you.” That one-two punch knocked the wind out of me. I did all the things you’re not supposed to do — cried, begged, used logic, the whole list. I’ve been sleeping in our basement apartment for the past month so I can give her the space she asked for while still being in the house with our kids. It’s been one of the hardest things I’ve ever gone through. I’ve been reading books, listening to podcasts, going to church, learning about attachment styles, and working on the no-contact/low-contact approach. I’m seeing the classic push-pull and warm/cold behavior from her, but I’m trying not to take it personally. I’m owning my part in how we got here and focusing on becoming a better husband and father regardless of the outcome. This separation has lit a fire under me to actually change. Every day is still a struggle, but I’m grateful I’m still in the house with my kids. Would love to hear from anyone who’s been through something similar.