ND attracts ND (and I didn’t realise how universal this was)
I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve really clicked with someone — easy conversation, depth straight away, zero awkwardness — and then halfway through I think: 🧠 Hold on… are you neurodivergent? They are! 🤗 Every. Single. Time. And when I started asking others, the response was the same: “Yes. That happens to me too.”🙋♀️ Different lives. Different labels. Same pattern.🧩 It’s not about diagnosis. It’s not about being “similar people”. It’s nervous systems recognising each other. There’s less masking. Less explaining. More jumping between topics without apology. More honesty, intensity, humour, quiet, tangents, depth. It feels like relief — not effort. And that’s why so many ND adults look around one day and realise: their closest friends are ND, their partner is ND, their children are ND, their safest spaces are ND-led. Not by design. By resonance. This isn’t about excluding NT people — it’s about understanding why some connections feel grounding and others feel draining, even when everyone is kind. ❤️ Once you see the pattern, you can’t unsee it. 🌈 💬 Have you noticed this too? When you really click with someone — does it usually turn out they’re ND?