When we present whats best about us, we can't really be sure the bonds we are creating are around our true selves. It isn't until we experience tension, repair, and true adversity do we see the strength a bond is truly able to provide. As social creatures, we thrive best when we feel secure in our bonds with others. This is why we naturally are given so many thoughts and emotions to navigate, this provides opportunities for vulnerability. Through this we can vet for people that are truly a fit for our authentic selves. This can be difficult if we grew up without authentic self acceptance. Its time to turn the table on these patterns.