The goal is not to keep the nervous system constantly calm. The goal is for it to be able to shift into a state of arousal when needed, and then return to a balanced state. Today I came across this video, and I really wanted to share it here in At My Place too: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qveK--yCafo&t=7s One idea really stayed with me. Our nervous system does not need to be calm all the time. It also needs activation, challenge, movement and energy. But it also needs to know that after that, it can slow down, relax and feel safe again. Maybe the problem is not that we get activated. Maybe the problem starts when we do not know how to come back. In the video, they talk about eight signs that can be connected with a nervous system that stays alert for too long. And I have to say, I saw myself in a few of them very clearly. 🙂 For about some days now, I have been doing Breathwork every morning, and this is also part of my journey — learning to notice more of what is happening inside me, not only around me. Maybe the goal is not to stay calm all the time. Maybe it is about learning how to move between activation and relaxation, between action and rest — and knowing how to come back to myself. And what about you? Can you go into activation when you need it, and then allow yourself to calm down again?

This image came to me and instantly reminded me that life is not changed by the one watching from the outside, but by the one who steps into the arena. It’s not the person standing on the outside, judging, who changes their life. It’s the one who steps into the arena. The one who sweats. The one who doubts. The one who falls and still chooses to rise again. Because real growth is not born in comfort It is born in movement. In the courage to try. In the willingness to be real instead of perfect. Being in the arena doesn’t mean having it all figured out. It means being willing to feel, to risk, and not give up after the first failure. That is where strength is built. Not in words. In action. The body wants to move. The mind wants to believe. And when you allow both, things begin to change.

It doesn’t need another miracle either. Most of the time, it needs more naturalness, more consistency, and less chaos. This approach makes more and more sense to me lately. Not chasing the next miracle solution, but coming back to the basics that can actually be lived long term. What feels like the bigger problem to you today — lack of information, or the chaos of having too much of it?

The man who defeated his own father The man who took the sky. The man who leads. Not through noise. Not through pleading. Not through the need to be liked. But through presence. When Zeus enters a space, you feel authority. He knows how to decide. He knows how to carry pressure. He knows how to protect direction. His gift is leadership. His shadow is hardness. Because a man who wants to rule the world must not forget his own heart. Zeus is not only power. Zeus is responsibility. Do you feel this energy within yourself?

Lately, I’ve been exploring the archetype of Aphrodite more deeply, and this film gave me a completely new perspective on her energy. Lou Andreas-Salomé was a remarkable woman who crossed paths with men such as Friedrich Nietzsche and Rainer Maria Rilke. But what touched me most was not simply that she inspired great men. It was something deeper. Aphrodite can sometimes see the man you could become before you are able to see it yourself. She doesn’t create your strength for you. She doesn’t rescue you. She doesn’t walk your path. But through her presence, attention and belief, she may reflect something back to you: “I can see this in you. Maybe it’s time for you to see it too.” That is how I started to understand one of Aphrodite’s gifts. She awakens life. Creativity. Courage. Passion. Possibility. With Rilke, this becomes especially beautiful. Lou sees something in the young poet before he has fully become the man and artist he could be. She challenges him, supports him and helps him grow. But something happens in the opposite direction too. Rilke awakens something in her. Lou had spent much of her life protecting her independence, choosing reason and freedom over emotional surrender. With Rilke, she finally allows herself to experience both spiritual and sexual intimacy. So they awaken something in each other. And this is where the story becomes even more interesting. Aphrodite’s energy is not about possession. The moment a man starts believing that the woman herself is the source of his power, love can slowly become dependency. You can trust the way she sees you. You can allow her presence to awaken something inside you. But you cannot own the woman who showed you that part of yourself. Maybe mature Aphrodite energy says: “I see who you could become. But now you must become that man on your own feet.” That idea stayed with me long after the film ended. If you are curious about archetypes, relationships, creativity and the strange way two people can awaken hidden parts of each other, I recommend watching it.