@Aja King Sadly this was my mindset. I did exactly what you just said and learned from that. All the people i passed monies to, don't even speak to me anymore...not one. From my experience, giving some people monies before they ask only causes them to splurge irresponsibly and the shame from that makes them go into hiding from you. Think of all the people that blew their lottery winnings and go broke soon after. Very common. Also, i learned that among everyone, put your kids in position first. They are your greatest investment, your legacy and the more you pour into that, the more secure your future will be in the event the money is gone. so go super hard on them for a planned amount of time (1-2 yrs) before sharing your wealth with anyone else other than your church. Your entire perspective would be different after that. You'll see how mean and dismissive people are when they see you winning and not them. Those who are still the same with you and your family while they watch you be blessed, as they did when you were low on money, will be the ones to help. Only give to the church and do that sparingly over time...not all at once. I think these conversations aren't by accident...divine in fact....You are goanna come into some money soon.