Family court enforces alienation. It’s why forced therapy never works. What helped me accept I had been alienated Was Understanding my own patterns. Patterns: Our early experiences with our parents have a profound effect on our lives. We develop survival strategies as a result of our conditioning. Not only are we unable to recognize or acknowledge our parents faults and their abuse of us; we also imitate their moods and behaviors to be accepted by them. Negative patterns, though unconsciously motivated by a deep need for love, produce alienation and rejection.. The good news is every pattern doesn't have to be permanent. I'll be posting about patterns all week and the role they play in our lives. Please share the group with parents and anyone wanting to learn a new approach to understanding your alienated teens and adults and maybe yourself too. (: