I just published the first video in the Boundaries mini-course! Check it out in the Classroom tab and let me know what you think below! Post your action homework here or you can create a new post to share your experiences and journaling prompts.

Borderline Personality Disorder Anonymous Hi Everyone! I'm excited to announce this free recovery group! It's similar to other 12-step programs. Join the movement of people with BPD supporting each other through a lifestyle of recovery and community. This group is focused on people who suffer from symptoms of BPD and their loved ones. We mirror the other 12 step fellowships, where we have no opinion on anything. There is no crosstalk and the 12 steps tailored to borderline personality disorder recovery are provided. Step 1 — Acknowledgment We acknowledged that our emotional responses and patterns had become bigger than our ability to manage alone, and that our relationships and inner world were suffering as a result. Step 2 — Openness We became open to the possibility that healing was available to us, whether through community, a higher power, science, or something greater than our current understanding. Step 3 — Surrender We made a decision to release our grip on controlling outcomes and trust the process of healing, leaning into support rather than isolation. Step 4 — Inventory We took an honest and compassionate inventory of our emotional patterns, triggers, resentments, relationships, and the ways our symptoms have shown up in our lives — without judgment. Step 5 — Disclosure We shared our inventory openly — with ourselves, with our community, and with a trusted person — acknowledging the impact of our patterns on ourselves and others. Step 6 — Willingness We became willing to examine and release the adaptive behaviors that once protected us but no longer serve our healing and growth. Step 7 — Asking We humbly sought support — from our community, our practice, and our higher understanding — to help us rewire the patterns keeping us stuck. Step 8 — Accountability We made an honest list of the ways our symptoms have caused harm — to ourselves first, and then to others — and became willing to take responsibility without self-destruction. Step 9 — Amends

Who all is going to the munch today? I look forward to it being at this brewery and seeing everyone. I've been taking it easy today with social interactions in order to have full energy for this munch. Do ya'll do anything different on days you are attending events or munches? Personal boundaries you have that help you stay unmasked at the munch while keeping your social battery full? This month's TNG munch link. I'll be there today and happy to talk about Boundaries and Becoming. Please approach me if you like. Let's all look out for each other when we see each other at events. It's okay to interrupt me for a hug if you see me in mid-conversation.

The way you talk to yourself is so important! I used to talk about myself in a way that I thought I was being a friend to myself or that I was saying what others were thinking. I used to try to beat people to what I felt they were judging me on. I started listening to motivational videos and learned that successful people who vibrate on high-vibrations didn't talk to themselves in ways that limited their abilities, opportunities etc. I stopped saying, "I can't" do stuff unless I physically could not and started saying why I wouldn't do that thing. It helped me start separating the difference between what I wanted to do and was not able to do or stuff that I didn't want to do and was obligating myself etc. I started learning more about myself in changing my narrative. I once had someone tell me that I don't take compliments well, or that the way I receive compliments was annoying. I could feel it. Like my lack of confidence was being shown in my words and body behavior. One time I told a new therapist the things I wanted to improve on and I thought she was going to diagnose me with something serious and she said, "so you want more confidence". I thought she was minimalizing my problems and then I learned years later that there was truth in that. I started changing the way I think and the narrative I tell myself with motivational videos on YouTube. I used to build people up when they spoke down on themselves and I would go to that dark place with them. I knew that it came from a place of being judged or bullied and I understood how that felt, but it would take me a lot of emotional energy to go there and still keep my good mood. Then I had to learn how to express that I didn't like it when my friends talked down on themselves. I didn't like being around people who called me, or themselves, stupid or ridiculous etc. Then I started talking to myself differently and choosing who to be around. People who didn't talk about their who didn't make me feel even worse about myself or who also wanted to hear how I was doing and took me into consideration.

Weekly stand up is tomorrow. This is where we take time to review the week and what we're working on. Also, I posted a video about how I learned about Boundaries and where I first discovered them. Check it out and comment how you first learned about Boundaries and started applying them to your life. Did you learn as a child or were you like me and discovered them as an adult? Discovering Boundaries