I appreciate this video so much. My former partner was in amazing shape physically, a very attractive man. We resonated on so many core values around freedom (health and otherwise, raising children), he always did what he said he was going to do, was steady and reliable and loving. He always held steady presence for me to express myself. And he was very masculine and disciplined with his body and health. But in his own work and purpose he lacked purpose and direction. He was unemployed for a majority of our relationship until I told him he needed to get a job and he was still living with his mom close to 40. I don't think I was respectful and honoring of him towards the end in a way to inspire him, or in the way I would have liked to be...I think I was more shaming and controlling which I am embarrassed to admit. So physically I was very attracted to him...but in his direction and drive I wasn't so much...I didn't feel safe that he could lead us, I was often leading us. I wonder if I could have inspired him with love and honesty...because i just sort of flipped and became super controlling and then broke up with him and told him we should reconnect after three months after we both had time to think...its rough to think, he was so truly amazing in so many ways and one of the safest humans i have known and so committed...did I throw the baby out with the bathwater in breaking up with him? Do you think it would have been helpful to see us as a team and know we could figure things out?