A secret to understanding anyone
I sat down this morning with my coffee and my newest book, 'What's in it for them' by Joe Polish. I started reading chapter 5: Treat others as THEY want to be treated. And if I just stopped here the message in this title is enough to completely transform your relationships & business - because they're one in the same. It was something else that Joe wrote that made me close the book to really let it sink it because it hit me right in the stomach. "If you want to know someone's love language, listen to what they complain about." If you're not familiar with 'Love Languages' there are 5: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Giving Gifts, Physical Touch & Quality Time. These are the 5 primary ways people like to show and receive love. Although we may prioritize them in different order, this is how all humans communicate their affection for each other. But more on that another day. Back to the complaining! If you pay attention to what someone complains about what they're actually telling you is exactly how THEY like to be treated. They're giving you a view into how they like to receive love. For example, my soon to be wife, Allison often speaks of how she wishes more people would be able to predict what she needs - tall order, but I signed up for it 😜 What she's really saying is that it means a lot to her when people put in thought around their relationship with her. She LOVES to make moments feel special and it hurts when other people (me) don't give the little things much attention. - this is her love language. So if you're wanting to connect more deeply with people, whether they're you're closest, new friends or potential partners, pay close attention to what they complain about because they're telling you how THEY want to be treated. Pay attention to the details it's a powerful way to learn how to understand someone - so you'll never have to 'read minds' again 🙌🏼. Was this helpful?