Self-esteem says "I am valued." Narcissism says "I am superior." The difference is empathy. Harvard psychologist Dr. Craig Malkin and Dr. Daniel Siegel call it the ability to tune into another person's experience. Try this: • Pause and ask, "What do you think they felt?" • Narrate feelings you see: "Look at his face, he seems disappointed." • Model it in your own apology: "I spoke sharply, that wasn't kind." Children who practice noticing others don't need constant admiration to feel secure. Join us with your experiences.

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You prioritise better. Ask: “What is the one thing that matters most right now?” This prevents less-important tasks from consuming your attention.

You make fewer mistakes. Rushing often creates rework—forgetting something, sending the wrong message, or doing a task twice. A short pause can save much more time later.

In the next few days, let's take a moment to slow down when we are rushing. This can actually help you get more done. It is like taking your foot off the accelerator for a few seconds so you can make sure you are still going in the right direction. • You think more clearly. Slowing down gives your brain a chance to decide what actually needs attention rather than reacting to everything at once.