Finances come up in the counselling sessions often! There have been individuals hiding debt (if you've seen blue therapy... Then you know) There have been couples with separate bank accounts Couples with joint bank accounts Couples with no idea how much their partner makes Couples who have weekly financial meetings to reach their goals Money can bring up shame, excitement, concern, judgement and hurt. Some people are spenders and others are savers, and when this happens in a relationship this can be challenging too. So my question today is, what are your thoughts on couples and finances? Should there be transparency in a couples finances? Let me know your thoughts below.

Lately, something keeps coming up in my conversations with couples and I felt it was worth sharing here. Couples are often arguing about a word or topic, but each person has a completely different understanding of what that word actually means. Take "respect" for example. To one person, respect means being spoken to in a certain way. To the other, it means being honoured and appreciated for what they do. Same word. Totally different meaning. When we are not clear on what our partner actually means, miscommunication creeps in and before you know it, you are both arguing about completely different things without even realising it. This is why I teach my couples the 3 C's framework. ✅ Check ✅ Connect ✅ Clarify The Check alone can stop so many arguments from escalating. It sounds like this: "When you say _____, I heard _____. Is that what you meant?" Simple. But powerful. It gives your partner the chance to say yes or explain it differently. Either way, you now have a clearer picture of what they actually mean. Which means you can finally have the conversation you were both trying to have. I have added the 3 C's framework document I use with my couples to the tools and resources section. Feel free to grab it and start using it in your conversations. And I would love to know, do you find there are times you misunderstand your partner? Drop it in the comments. 👇🏾

You are not here because your relationship is falling apart. You are here because you refuse to coast. This is the space where Christian couples do the real work together. 💖Step 1: Start in the Classroom. You can find the Intimacy Bundle in the classroom, or use this link. https://www.skool.com/the-kingdom-relationship-room/classroom/6100406c That is your home base. Inside, you will find faith-rooted tools, psychology-backed resources, and practical challenges built around communication, conflict, intimacy, and parenting. Start there. Work through it at your own pace. Want something else in there? Let me know, this space is yours! 💖 Step 2: Introduce yourself Drop a comment below. Tell us your name, and one thing you are hoping to build in your relationship this year. Glad you are here. Now, let us get to work.