Being selfish doesn't really work for me, but learning how to become Selflessly Selfish really did! I had always thought selfishness was bad, but surely putting yourself first is one of the definitions of self-esteem (to a certain extent). This is a clip from video 36 - where I ask, "Is it sensible to be too nice?"

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