Hi guys , i am really struggling with letting go, i feel like its an o going pattern that os ruining my life and finding super hard to change particularly when its controlling the outcome im trying to state a boundary and stick to it but then the fear comes n that the boundary wont be met

hey everyone! the replay is UP and you can see it here: https://www.skool.com/highvibetribe/classroom/5bac406c?md=4beee382d5d04e3489240caa2bbff519 today’s call was amazing…did you feel the magnetic group energy! it was about seeing the patterns and realizing that you are not your patterns many of us identify with survival strategies we developed in childhood like being a people-pleaser, perfectionist or fixer when these subconscious patterns stay under the surface, they continue attracting what's familiar even when we consciously want something different that's why we can repeat the same relationships and the same situations in life day 1 of this challenge is about getting to the root of those patterns, letting yourself feel, releasing the stored energy underneath them, so that identity-level transformation can begin HW for Day 1: 🌟what came up for you during day 1? what was your BIGGEST takeaway? 🌟what was your biggest breakthrough or realization? what pattern or story did you become aware of beneath the surface? 🌟have a conversation with Aaron AI, or complete the Identity Shift Challenge Worksheet - If you complete the worksheet, use the voice feature instead of typing. the way you naturally speak reveals more about your subconscious patterns and identity. this will take 15-20 minutes to complete - remember…the more you put into it, the more you'll get out of it - here's the link for worksheet:  https://innersights.io/aaron/assessments/the-identity-shift-challenge and after you finish the worksheet, then go to the chat function on the left side of the screen to access Aaron AI to go deeper Use this prompt with Aaron AI “Here’s a situation that keeps repeating in my relationships or life: ___. - The main emotion I feel is: ___. - Reflect back what pattern do you see, what nervous system response does it sound like (fight, flight, or freeze)? and what core belief might be underneath it? Give me one journal question to sit with tonight.”

… your pain is not a threat to them; it is a responsibility. The moment they realize they have hurt you, they don't look for a way out of that moment. People who truly love you don't need you to suffer in silence for them to be comfortable. They don't ask you to minimize your pain in an elegant sentence that won't ruin their mood. They may feel guilt, shame, embarrassment, but they don't throw these emotions into your arms as punishment. We all make mistakes. We all say the wrong things sometimes. We all misjudge at times, we all get defensive, overwhelmed. But love isn't measured by whether someone never hurts you; it's measured by what they do when you tell them they've hurt you. Love listens without questioning. Love asks questions to understand, not to trap you. Love seeks restoration, not victory for the sake of the trophy. When you tell someone they hurt you and their response feels like manipulation, denial, diversion, or a lie, you’re seeing someone treating your feelings as an accusation to be defeated, not a wound worth healing. They twist the conversation until you end up explaining yourself, defending yourself, proving yourself, apologizing for daring to bring it up. Because their priority is not your healing, it’s protecting their image of themselves. They’re more afraid of being seen as imperfect than they are of you feeling broken. They’re more concerned with appearing the “wonderful” person they think they are than acting like one when it matters. They would rather reshape reality than admit they caused pain. They would rather make you doubt yourself than face themselves. And yet, communicate! Not because you can force consciousness into a man who refuses it, and not because talking guarantees a better outcome, but because silence is costly. Silence teaches your body that your pain is not worth mentioning and you will accept less and less. Speaking is a statement that your feelings are real, that your experience matters. And if their response is anger, denial, and manipulation, let your inner smile be your response. The right person for you will not punish you for being honest.

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Biggest insight is to not identify with my thoughts, I am a crazy overthinker and it's draining so that's something I definitely want to work on Whilst writing this I'm having actual de ja vu , weird Things /people draining me A specific person who can be chill sometimes but wants alot of my attention at other times is really affecting me at the moment but with this weeks meditations I feel I'm able to distance myself more My mum is also looking after my father who has dimentia and getting quite ill herself trying to do so, is also a drain and I'm trying to support there as best as I can , any insights into this would be welcomed My son is the best and helps keep me going and I teach him what I learn too Social media I started switching off alot from in the past year , I'm a dancer and I did find myself comparing myself to other people but realised the reason why I started dancing was because of how I felt and not to compete. I post tutorials on YT and tik tok but don't get attached to how many likes I get anymore although I did at first... seem to be getting more likes this week on a video I posted a month ago which is interesting. Excuse the essay it's also helping me get my thoughts straight, much love ❤️