I think shame comes from the sufferer passing judgement on themselves. It could be that the person did not cause the thing they are ashamed of, they did entirely cause it, or the truth is somewhere in-between. For me personally, if something happens to me that was entirely beyond my control, then it's an opportunity to learn and grow, and let it go. If it was under my control, if I made poor choices or terrible mistakes, then I can learn and grow from it, change myself where needed, and let it go. I'm not sure I experience shame the way neurotypical people do, but that's how I handle situations that seem to generate experiences of shame for others. I'm glad you are a health coach, and the world needs more alternative sources of health care to waiting in a clinic for 4 hours to see a doctor who may or may not have ever seen you (that's my experience). Unfortunately, doctors are trained on a curriculum heavily influenced by big pharma in which the way to treat disease is: (1) Patient presents symptoms (2) Form a hypothesis as to what it could be (3) Run tests to clarify/verify (4) Decide on a diagnosis (5) Determine what to prescribe (6) Prescribe treatment (7) Monitor patient (8) Go to step 1 Most doctors are barely trained on the science and research relating to diet, exercise, lifestyle, sleep, light exposure, environmental toxins, and the mind-body connection (such as trauma presenting as abdominal pain that can't be explained and might get a 'neuropathy' label and a synthetic opiate prescription). I have never had a doctor prescribe exercise, diet changes, or lifestyle changes ever in my entire life.

No, YOU'RE the best!