@Sani Smith DuPont Oh dear, sweet Sani, I feel such compassion and love for you. I'm so sorry about your experience with your mother. I am not a doctor, so I can't say that she is a Narcissist, however, I have experienced these type of people my entire life. Friends, family, roommates and most recently my apartment manager. Very toxic, manipulative and controlling. I'd like to recommend Dr Ramani on YouTube. She's magical and helped me to understand that their behavior is about THEM and NOT you! They are very damaged and wounded themselves, which on one hand is very sad, yet the damage they cause is horrendous. I so admire, and want to acknowledge, the courage it took to be so vulnerable with us! You are a rockstar!!!