The Night I Caught my Mind Lying to Me
Last night I had one of those nights. You know the kind. I was tired but wide awake. My mind was racing. I kept thinking about the next class I want to write, the direction of my business, the income goals I have set, and the big move coming up in my life. Everything was turning in my head. If you’ve ever had that kind of night, you know what happens next. Your brain starts trying to solve everything at once. Plans. Strategies. Concerns. Possibilities. And before you know it, you’re lying there in what psychologists call rumination. At some point I realized I had been awake for a couple of hours and my mind would not settle down. So I stopped and asked myself a question. “What belief am I acting from right now?” The answer came immediately. I was acting as if building the life and business I want is hard. And deeper than that… I was acting as if, somewhere inside, I might fail and not get what I really want. The moment I saw that, everything paused. Not because I forced my mind to stop, but because awareness interrupts the pattern. That’s when I used the I AM framework. First I asked myself: What belief do I want to act from instead? Instead of operating from the identity of someone trying to fix everything or prevent failure, I chose the identity of a creator. Someone who builds. Someone who decides. Someone who moves things forward. Then I asked the next question: If I truly believed this new identity… what is one action that would naturally move things forward? Just one. And finally: What would be the proof that I am on the right track? The measurable movement. The whole process took about ten minutes. And the shift was immediate. What I realized is that when we are tired or under pressure, we often slip back into our old identity patterns. Not because they are true, but because they are familiar. The I AM framework interrupts that. It gives you a way to see the belief that is driving your behavior, choose a new identity, take one aligned action, and then look for measurable movement.