Hi Everyone About 23 years ago, I retired, due to sickness. I had been ill most of my life, and repeatedly misdiagnosed, so despite seeing specialist after specialist, I kind of wore down like the Duracell Bunny, and stopped, except there were no new batteries for me. I then had to fight my employer for sick pay, because they decided immediately to not pay me any, to not honour my work related health insurance, and make my life as difficult as possible, despite the fact I'd worked incredibly hard for years. Eventually, after a great deal of stress, I won. Unfortunately, as it turned out, I made the mistake of telling my already very narcissistic and controlling "Mother" about this. True to form, instead of being pleased for me, like a normal person, she became insanely jealous, inexplicably decided my health insurance payments should be hers, and began threatening me. This was particularly disappointing as six months before retiring I'd actually taken out thousands on my mortgage to pay off her debts, when she had come to me telling me no one would lend her any money and she would lose her house otherwise. She had then proceeded to also not pay any of the agreed monthly payments back. At this point I had still not been diagnosed correctly, so I did not know that I actually had Adrenal Disease, amongst other things, so was literally physically unable to deal with stress. I had had no balance all of my life, I passed out and would be debilitated with exhaustion for weeks when faced with what other people treated as minor illnesses, and compounding stress factors would take me out for months and months at a time. I did not know this, but in hindsight, I have a feeling my coercively controlling "Mother" had noticed the effect stress had on me and used it as a means to control me, knowing full well I would just go along with things to avoid the stress she would cause otherwise. One day around this time I walked into my "Mother"s house to get something and opened a kitchen cupboard door. Inside I found a pile of letters approximately 2 foot high, all opened, and all addressed to me, that I had never seen. I begun opening them to find birthday cards, Xmas cards, letters from my grandparents, invitations to family gatherings and all kinds of personal notes that people had clearly given to her, trusting her to pass on to me, for decades. But she was so insanely jealous of anyone giving me any attention that should be hers, she took them, opened them, and kept them for herself instead. She had spent years telling me, when I'd asked, why my brother would get cards and invites etc, and I wouldn't, that "there must be must be something wrong with me", and "no one would ever like me", and doing everything she could to destroy my confidence and self esteem, when simultaneously, they were actually treating me no differently to my brother, and it was her all along. I'd like to be able to say that I felt absolute betrayal in that moment, and that my entire life was a lie, but it's hard to feel betrayal when I'd always known there was something very wrong with her, even if I didn't know exactly what was happening.