Hey, my name is Kaity and I'm from the east coast of Canada. For me, unstuck means that I am no longer living out of the false beliefs my trauma stories taught me, but learning how to feel safe enough to DO as well as DREAM. :) I am excited this community exists, because... 1) ...my best bud is super into manifesting atm, and David's book gave me such a clear explanation of it! 2) ...I am a holistic wellness coach, looking for support with the mindset and business side of things! 3) ...I am interested in connecting here, because I love the way David has set the tone with his own vulnerability and his acknowledgement of the impact trauma can leave on us! He wrote about "fog" inside ourselves, which I identified with because it is also an acronym for "Fear, Obligation and Guilt," used to explain the affect domestic abuse can have on us mentally. Let's just say I've been there. The past several months, I have been thick in the throes of grief due to the end of my marriage, and then losing my dear mother to cancer So when I read Lissa Rankin's recent articles about Spiritual Bypassing, I couldn't exactly relate. I do feel my grief, and had to get in touch with it at an early age as there was a grieving process that came with healing my chronic illness, too. But maybe anger is an emotion I struggle more with feeling, especially has it has been taken out on me in ways that were abusive by others. I related SO MUCH to Lissa's shift, when she said she was learning how to be kind to HERSELF as well as showing love and forgiveness to those who have hurt her and behaved abusively. Same. I have been working very hard to listen to myself (my coach is trained in Internal Family Systems), to learn my needs, to set boundaries, to identify red flags and safe people, and yet still when I start to shift into "manifestation mode," although it feels super good to be in a "flowing" and trusting and peaceful emotional state, I can find it a bit scary if I am being honest! Like the good feelings are good, but then the good things happening as fast as I can think them feels too good to be true?

Been thinking about this lately and wanted to share in case it helps anyone here... so for the longest time i was consuming everything. podcasts, courses, mentorship calls, books... learning constantly. but my actual business results? barely moved for several years, just stayed stagnated. took me way too long to realize i was treating an internal problem like an external one. heres what i mean... theres basically two types of stuck. i call them BOULDERS and FOG. boulders are external obstacles. real barriers. you push harder, you get results. more effort = more progress. fog is internal. limiting beliefs, fear, mindset stuff. and heres the thing... you cant push through fog. pushing harder just exhausts you. the trap most of us fall into is we keep adding more tactics, more strategies, more hours when the actual problem is we cant see clearly the symptom that tells you its fog? effort isnt producing proportional results. youre working 60+ hours but people with seemingly less effort are getting better outcomes. thats usually a sign. for me it was the belief that i was "smaller" than I am - long story short, I grew up in a third world country run by a dictator for 24 years, couple with an overly critical and punitive father, and that gave me a shame-based self identity of smallness for a very long time. I wasnt even aware it was running my decisions until i really looked at it once i spotted that the issue wasnt more information or better tactics but something i couldnt see because i was IN it... everything shifted what actually helped: stopped and asked is this fog or boulder? if effort isnt working its probably fog got external perspective. others can see what you cant see when youre inside the fog. this community is good for that tbh traced the belief back. where did i first learn this? usually childhood. does that source deserve to run my business decisions today? usually no lol gave myself permission to try the easier path. sounds dumb but some of us literally cant let ourselves succeed without suffering first