Joshua Willems

What would you have done in my situation?

A few weeks ago, I met a guy who asked me for some change. I respect men who muster the courage to ask for help, so I gave him what I had on me. Today, I saw the same guy in the same spot. He approached me, called me his friend, and asked for change again. At that moment, I felt like if I continued to give, this could turn into a pattern. So this time, I politely refused. He became upset and walked away. What would you have done?

4 likes • Oct '24

An idea struck me. Don’t know exactly how to implement it but, have a task he could do to make it reciprocal. “Ya! I’ve got some change. Maybe you could do me a favor to, give me a quick review on yelp…” something like that as a “teach a man to fish rather than give a man a fish” principle. Or throw away some trash or whatever. Giving him his dignity is worth more than the change if he’ll take it.

Oct '24 •

Been a week already??? Woah

7of90… time flies when your having fun. I take responsibility for everything in my life

Sep '24 •

5 of 90

I take responsibility for everything in my life 👍

1 like • Oct '24

@Melissa Greene hard to say… At some level, I think you’re right but prioritizing necessities can also be an aversion to risk which perpetuates only ever having the necessities. On the level that I resonate with what you’re saying, once you hold the right framework in mind, you take your journey of 1,000 steps one necessity at a time. That’s the rub though, settling on a framework within which to determine necessities. 🤔

0 likes • Oct '24

@Melissa Greene there are usually more spinning plates than that in my experience. Which isn’t a bad thing per se but it does add nuance and complexity. Like… you can be so single minded about work that you forget to eat (I do it all the time) but if you do that long enough there can be serious issues. That’s just a simple example of what I’m talking about but there are “combinatorially explosive” mixes and matches of what a good goal might even look like. That’s always been my biggest issue, the “practical application” was never a priority tell recently so now I’m sorting out how all my thought experiments integrate into a “deliverable” as well as how much to just “wing it” with what I have and let it evolve from experience. It’s fun but it’s got a lot of variables. 🤷‍♂️🤔☺️

Melissa Greene

Sep '24 •

90 Day Responsibility Challenge - What I learned and achieved!

Some of you have asked about my 90 Day Challenge🤗💪❤️🧘‍♀️🪷🙏🎉: I completed my 90-Day Responsibility Challenge on 9/28/24. I plan to continue, and I encourage you to do the same. If you take this seriously by delving into your psyche, getting to know yourself and your triggers intimately, and then initiate positive changes that evolve into positive habits, you will be transformed. Pace yourself with the modules and embody the information. Remember why YOU signed up for this program. Do not compare yourself to anyone else’s journey, we are all unique and at varying stages of our own souls evolution. This is not a race, and the process can offer a roadmap to deep healing if you are ready and willing to face your own shadows. WHAT I LEARNED🤯: The most significant lesson I gained was discovering blind spots where I wasn’t taking FULL responsibility in my life. I realized that embracing responsibility wasn’t just about acknowledging my actions, it was about understanding their impact on my relationships, my habits, and ultimately, my self-worth. Taking FULL responsibility gave me the acumen that has brought me that much closer to creating the life I desire, it all boils down to Awareness and Self-Accountability. What I learned from taking FULL Responsibility: Top five blind spots uncovered: 1. Communication: I learned that I am responsible for how my words and actions are perceived by others. People react to using their subjective interpretations, and their perception often holds more weight than my intention. If I want harmonious relationships, I have the power to shape that through my word choices and actions. 2. Diet/Nutrition: I’ve struggled for years to fully transition to a high raw lifestyle. Through taking full responsibility, I stopped blaming external factors like the unhealthy items brought into the house by others. Instead, I took charge by making sure the items I needed for my goals were always available. This mindset shift made me stronger each day, resisting temptation and building healthier habits.