It was probably the most difficult thing I had to do. It felt wrong. I felt like I was disappointing people. It’s something I’ve struggled with forever. I learned to say “no” in 2025. For some people, this is not a big deal, but for me, it’s a struggle. Many of these “nos” were for social moments that I just simply could not commit to without completely burning out. Many of them were also for favors that I simply could not abandon my time for. Some of them were business related. I pride myself on being extremely reliable and trusted. The downside to that is people can begin to EXPECT you to show up any time, anywhere, and drop everything you’re doing for them. In part, I set this expectation because I am always willing to help, but the reality started to set in that I couldn’t help everyone and I could not afford to burn time and effort by always saying yes. I found that once I decided what aligned with my needs/wants/values, it became much easier to say no to something that didn’t fit. What I found to be the most important aspect of saying no was that it put me back in control. The tension, anger, and frustration was mounting because I felt like I was losing my time and control. Once I started saying no, I was back in the drivers seat. It’s made a world of difference. This isn’t a new lesson, but if you have ever felt like this, just know you can say “no” and your world and the people around you who matter will not change the way they think of you. I took control back by saying no and it has allowed me to deepen relationships and continue to grow. I never thought that would be the case. Please feel free to share your thoughts, insights, and experiences on this.

I suck at multi-tasking. Despite the fact that I’ve been doing it all my life, the real question is… why? Have you ever felt the power of dedicated, focused attention on a single objective? It’s deep. It’s powerful. It works. Instead, I typically spin... Thoughts. Worries. Businesses. Goals. Conversations. Notifications. Butterflies to chase. If my brain had a smell, it’d be burning rubber. And we don’t talk about the wear and tear enough. Not just on results — on us. Multitasking chews up mental tread. Constant switching overheats the engine. Nothing breaks all at once… it just slowly degrades. The other day I was running errands while on a “quick” phone call. After reflection, I did neither well. Double the inefficiency; Half the fun. Created friction that didn’t need to exist. That’s what all gas, no traction looks like. Movement without progress. Effort without momentum. Focus preserves the machine. Less burnout. Less noise. Fewer self-inflicted repairs. I’m trying to not do more anymore. The inner turmoil is to stop grinding myself down while pretending it’s productivity. What’s one thing in your life right now that deserves your full, undivided attention?

How do you show kindness to yourself in the constant hustle and bustle of life and business , personally and professionally, what do you do for you?

Hello community, Adam Holtzer here, I wanted to tell you a story about a line that has changed my life, and the lives/days/weeks of those around me. Ever say the term, “have a great day!” We all have said that, everyday we say that, back in 2018 I met someone who said to me, “create a great day.” That was a pattern interrupt to me, I had to stop and think about what those words meant. When I asked why this person said “create” bs “have,” it hit me. We all have the ability to create a great day, it’s a choice, it’s a mindset. So I leave you with this, every day, every week, we have the choice to make our days what they are, that’s the importance of mindset, and perspective. Give it a try, say to someone, “create a great day, or make it a great day.” There is a lot of power in both the words we choose, and the mindset we choose, with all that said… Create a great day after reading this post!

Being in the sales world I have wrestled with this debate: Is comparing yourself to other reps hurting your confidence and performance more than it helps? This is applicable to not just sales people! I have always been a competitive person and I can't help myself but compare myself to others, but does this help or hurt me? Sometimes it gets me fired up and sometimes it makes me question if I have what it takes. Can you balance both ?