John Hulsebus

I didn't realize how hard it would be to meet guys at this age. I live in a beach town. The guys I have come across are here for a weekend/week & are not really looking for a connection or to get to know you. Tried most of the apps. I have come across mostly scammers and guys with different intentions than me (LTR). Active in MeetUp groups. I am thankful for the new Girlfriends I have made. What would we do w/o them? I am convinced it is just the area I live in, which is about 2 hrs away from any metropolitan city. Anybody, guys or girls, experiencing anything similar? PS. Thru & thru I still have the "glass is half full" attitute that "my person" is out there.

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John Hulsebus

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I have the opposite problem...living in a rural area...it is hard to meet women in this age group who are interested in dating. Most are either still married...or have no interest in developing a relationship at this stage in their life. The only bigger city near me is a college town...so would only be beneficial to me if a wanted to date 22 year old's rather than 52 or 62 year old's. Living in a rural area, there are no singles meetings or speed dating events for my age group. Meetup.com and stitch.net confirms there are no local activities in my area for people my age.

Dessi Schachne

Jan 11 •

General chat 😊

Your Real “Why” for Partnership (Dating Re-Entry Mastertclass)

Hi everyone, I hope you all had a great week. Part of the work involved in finding your soul-aligned person is knowing your WHY. Not just the obvious surface level why, but the deeper, subconscious why. Take a journal or notepad and write the answers to the questions below. Take your time with this. Find a quiet spot when you have 10 minutes to yourself and write freely. No editing. No “shoulds". 1. Why do I want a partner? Beyond companionship or not wanting to be alone, what is the deeper reason? What emotional, relational, or life experience am I craving that I can’t create in the same way on my own? 2. What would actually change in my day-to-day life if I had a healthy, aligned partner? Be specific. How would my mornings, evenings, weekends, decisions, or sense of steadiness feel different? What would be easier, richer, or more meaningful? 3. Who would I become in partnership that I’m not fully expressing right now? What parts of me come alive when I’m sharing life with someone: emotionally, creatively, relationally, spiritually? What version of myself is waiting for that container? 4. How would being in a good partnership impact the people around me? How might I show up differently for my children, friends, family, colleagues, or community? What ripple effects would this relationship have beyond just me? 5. Why does this matter to me now? Why is this chapter of life calling for partnership? What feels complete, ready, or aligned about pursuing this at this stage—not earlier, not later? 6. When dating feels hard, slow, or disappointing, what deeper “why” will keep me motivated? When I’m tempted to quit, numb out, or settle...what truth do I want to remember? Finish this sentence: “Even when dating gets uncomfortable, frustrating, exhausting or hopeless, I am willing to stay open to connection because________________________________________________________. Closing Line (write this last): “I am not looking for a partner to fix my life. I am looking for a partner to __________________________.”

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Your Real “Why” for Partnership (Dating Re-Entry Mastertclass)

John Hulsebus

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I wrote the below as a dating exercise. This, either directly or indirectly answers the above questions...for me. I read this everyday and visualize that it will become a reality someday when I meet "my one". My Perfect Day in My Perfect Life 1. I wake up next to my loved one. We are both retired…so every day is a Saturday…and we have no time constraints. We can get up as early or stay in bed as long as we want. 2. We embrace and kiss each other. We tell each other how much each of us mean to the other. 3. We start the day with prayer. We give God thanks for our health and the start of a new day. We give thanks for all we have. We give thanks for being blessed with wonderful pets. We give thanks for finding each other and spending our lives together. 4. We get our bodies ready for the day…back rubs and massages…we explore each other’s bodies and give words of praise to each other 5. We greet our pets, who are in bed with us. We rub their bellies and scratch behind their ears. 6. We let the pets outside so that they can go to the bathroom. 7. We feed/water the pets 8. We begin discussing what to do today. Breakfast at home or out? Road trip? Shopping trip? Any appointments? Gym day? 9. The weather is nice, so we decide on a quick breakfast at home. 10. We changes into outdoor gear and head out with the pets to give them a walk. 11. We decide to walk through a local park. The pets love all of the smells…and we will have the privacy to enjoy each other’s company. We talks about our dreams and fears. 12. We return from the walk and relax. We check email, check social media, watch the News, and maybe watch some “Let’s Make a Deal” or “Price Is Right” 13. We decide to go out for lunch. We find a local eatery and order a small salad and split a sandwich. The weather is nice, so we sit outside to eat. I admire her beauty as the sun shines in her face. I am so lucky to be with her. 14. We return home and take the pets for a short walk around the block…allowing us to digest our lunch.

John Hulsebus

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@Dessi Schachne yea, as an IT guy who has experience in only writing technical manuals, I was surprised in myself to have written something that was so non-technical. I too, tear up reading it...especially near the end...hoping that this perfect day with my perfect one does come true some day.

Dessi Schachne

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News 🗞️

Tonight - Join us for Call #4 in the January Dating Re-Entry @ 6 PM EST

Hi everyone 💜 For our January Dating Re-Entry folks, we have our 4th live call tonight — and I’d love to see you there. The LINK is in the Calendar tab. This is a moment to pause and notice your forward momentum. Even if it doesn’t look dramatic from the outside. Every small step counts: - Signing up for an app - Sending (or replying to) a message - Going on a date - Saying “no” more cleanly Progress isn’t loud, it’s cumulative. PLUS: We will cover the 5 Biggest Mistakes people over 50 make and how to stop them. Bring your questions, your wins (big or tiny), and anything that’s feeling sticky right now. We’ll tackle it together. See you tonight ✨ PS: If you are a Premium member, you are welcome to attend. To upgrade to Premium, go to: https://www.skool.com/find-love-after-50/plans

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John Hulsebus

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@Dessi Schachne where is the link to the recorded session? Thanks!