I think the hardest loss was just the idea I had of what life was “supposed to” look like. I pictured the rest of my life as the wife to that man and had envisioned what that would look like as we hit different mile markers in life (after the kids graduated, after retirement, after we became grandparents, etc)….and it seemed like in an instant all those plans and dreams were gone. It was disorienting. Grief comes in waves so it is still part of the process….various thoughts and emotions coming up sometimes unexpectedly, but giving myself permission and just the understanding that it is ok and normal has been the biggest thing I am continuing to work on. Not condemning myself or doing the “should-ing” on myself for having the feelings I do. Feel them, cry if needed, journal, pray, process, talk them thru with someone, and bringing myself back to a grounded place and reminding myself I am ok has been the most helpful.

Tonight was AMAZING!!!!! I absolutely loved our discussion and having a chance to hear from so many of you. I really loved the opportunities each of us had to help each other. This group is going to be so so so fantastic! I can feel it and claiming healing for each and every one of our hearts as we walk this journey together!

Heyyyyyy Friends!!!!! I’m Jen. There was a season when divorce felt like it defined me. Like it rewrote my whole story in a way I didn’t ask for. It brought grief, insecurity, questions, and a lot of stretching. But what I’m learning is that divorce may have been part of my story — it’s not my identity. God is still shaping me, strengthening me, and teaching me who I am apart from what I went through. I’m here because I believe healing is possible. Not overnight. Not perfectly. But genuinely. And I am soooo excited to be here with you all and see how God uses this space as part of that process for us ALL!