A big welcome to you and thank you for joining Prostate Paladin! 🎉Please welcome James, @James Andrews to our community. Prostate Paladin community is all about raising prostate awareness, sharing helpful information, and encouraging open conversations about prostate health. Whether you're here to learn for yourself, support a loved one, or simply understand the topic better, we're glad to have you here. Please check out the Start Here, Prostate 101 Post in the classroom and explore the resources in the there and join the conversations whenever you're ready. Every question, shared experience, and conversation can help someone feel more informed and supported. Let's give our new member a warm welcome in the comments! 👇 Thank you, Alex

Today's question is when. When does the prostate become a problem? My honest answer: long before you notice. Mine is a good example. A friend at the airport pointed out what I had not seen. When I started reading, I realised I had been living with early signs for a while. I had put each one down to getting older. That is how it goes for most men. The prostate grows slowly from about 25 onwards. Each change is small enough to ignore. By the time anyone says the word prostate, it has usually been building for years. About half of men have a prostate issue by 50, and it goes up roughly 10% every decade after. When I looked into it, I made a few small changes and started getting my PSA checked. That is a simple blood test. Nothing dramatic. It just meant I knew where I stood. So, for the men here: what was the first change you noticed? And for the partners: what did you notice before he did? https://www.skool.com/prostate-paladin-4886/about

A big welcome to you and thank you for joining Prostate Paladin! 🎉Please welcome David, @David Ecom to our community. This community is all about raising prostate awareness, sharing helpful information, and encouraging open conversations about prostate health. Whether you're here to learn for yourself, support a loved one, or simply understand the topic better, we're glad to have you here. Feel free to explore the resources in the Classroom and join the conversations whenever you're ready. Every question, shared experience, and conversation can help someone feel more informed and supported. Let's give our new member a warm welcome in the comments! 👇 Thank you, Alex

Years ago I had a manager who kept saying he was tired. He told us he was being woken several times a night to piss. We laughed. I laughed with them, because I did not understand what he was actually telling us. Here is the part that still gets me, sixteen years on. I was getting up at night as well. I have always been able to drop straight back to sleep, so it never registered as anything. Slow flow. A few drops after I thought I was finished. Up in the dark. I had the lot and I recognized none of it. Nocturia, that is the word for getting up in the night to piss. I did not know the word and I did not know it meant anything. So I laughed at a man who was further down a road I was already on. It took a friend in the Bangkok airport lounge to say it out loud before I began to understand, then it took years of research to understand how big the problem is. So three questions, and I am asking because I do not have the answers. One. Has anybody ever told you anything at all about your prostate before it started affecting your life? Your father, a doctor, a mate, a magazine, anything. Or was it nothing until it was already happening to you? Two, and I think this one matters more. Where would a man actually listen? We all know the answer for the locker room. Nobody is engaging in there. So where? The car with the radio on. Fishing. A beer with one other man and nobody else. At the doctor when he is already sitting there asking about his knee. At 45, or does nobody hear it until 60? Three, and this is the one I cannot work out. My manager said it out loud to a room full of us and we laughed. So where do you think men as a group would be willing to listen? A pub, a work canteen, a club, a boat, a waiting room. Or is a group always the wrong place, and this only ever works one to one? I want to know where to put this stuff so it actually lands, instead of where it is comfortable to put it. Tell me in the comments. Where you first heard anything, where you would have actually taken it in, and whether a group of men is ever the place.

Today is the one that made it click for me. Where is the prostate? Just below the bladder. Wrapped around the tube that carries urine out. And sitting just in front of the back passage. Those three facts explain most of what men go through. Below the bladder and around the tube: so when it grows, it squeezes, like a fist around a garden hose. Weaker stream. More trips. Up at night. (I will leave the kinked hose jokes to you.) In front of the back passage: that is how a doctor can feel it with a gloved finger. Now you know why that exam exists. Once you can picture it, the symptoms stop being a mystery. Question for the group. Before today, could you have pointed to it? Be honest. Sixteen years ago, I could not have. https://www.skool.com/prostate-paladin-4886/about