Mom

Hi, I’m Jan from Iowa. My oldest daughter (38 yrs) has removed herself and our two grandchildren 13 &10 from our lives. She demands apologies from us, and our daughter (36) for the way we’ve treated her. The thing is, she’s mad at her Dad for his short comings and his poor communication skills. He’s an impatient man and ironically they are very much alike. Because I won’t change him or leave him she’s “done with us all.” She won’t allow her kids to be in our “toxic home”. My grandkids loved us and loved being with us. I can hardly function because of this. We all live in the same very small town and she’s said such awful things about us on social media, which I really don’t care about. I’m just so embarrassed for her and the kids. People offer me sympathy for the comments so I just stay home and avoid the world. She’s struggled with mental health issues for years and uses that as her reasoning to be allowed to talk to me the horrible way she does. (The few times we’ve spoken when I’ve tried to reach out.) I no longer do that. She has very strong, narcissistic tendencies, and I honestly see no light nor even a tunnel at all. Thank you for being here.